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When the two of us go to the pub I have noticed that my male colleague always manages to work things so that we are sitting side by side on one side of a table rather than facing each other across it. I mentioned this to a friend of mine who is convinced this means he fancies me. I suspect it means the opposite as it makes direct eye contact more difficult. Does anybody know what such positioning is likely to mean?

When the two of us go to the pub I have noticed that my male colleague always manages to work things so that we are sitting side by side on one side of a table rather than facing each other across it. I mentioned this to a friend of mine who is convinced this means he fancies me. I suspect it means the opposite as it makes direct eye contact more difficult. Does anybody know what such positioning is likely to mean?

A friend of mine is getting married next month and has invited me to the evening reception. I told him that I can't go as, much as I like his fiancée, I think he's making a mistake. He is gay but hasn't found the courage to come out. I am one of only a handful of people who know. I know that his isn't an unheard of situation and many such marriages do work, but it upsets me that he's settling for what he feels is socially respectable rather than holding out for his soulmate.

Anyway, I do sincerely wish them well (he knows this) and would like to give them a wedding gift. His fiancée knows I'm not coming but I don't know if he's told her why, or why I think he's making a mistake. In the circumstances would it be two faced of me, inappropriate, to give them a gift?

Thanks for any input.

A friend of mine is getting married at Christmas to a woman he's been seeing for a couple of years. She basically set out to get him and he was happy enough to go along with the flow. She wanted to get married, he thought why not, they rub along just fine.

Thing is, I don't think he loves her like he should and reckon at best they will trundle along reasonably content. There's no grand passion, and they've never lived together. So when he talked about me coming to the wedding I asked him not to send me an invitation as I think he is making a mistake and don't want to be there to see it. He got really angry.

Surely if I were wrong he would just say "I love Kate to bits, she loves me, and we're very happy together. Honest, you have nothing to worry about." That he got angry makes me wonder if I was a bit close to the truth and subconsciously at least he may have doubts...?

Is this possible, or wishful thinking on my part?

I have received a letter saying that I have been included on the list of potential jurors for the local Sheriff Court (Scotland). I may be called for jury duty at any time in the next 2 years. However, I am partially deaf (I wear hearing aids) and need to be able to lipread those I am listening to. I imagine this would be impossible in a court setting. Given what may be riding on my being in possession of all the facts, if I advise the Sheriff Clerk of my disability am I likely to be removed from this list?