Sonya

My boyfriend and I have had so many arguments throughout the 1 year we have been together. There has never been anything serious, it’s usually him getting overly defensive about something and me getting irritated because he’s started something out of nothing. Since last year I lost my job 3 times due to Covid, I’ve had several set backs to my health and now I think I’m going into depression. I have told my boyfriend, but he hasn’t been there for me, all I want is for him to listen to me vent sometimes or not start unnecessary arguments so I can have a little break from feeling like everything is falling apart. He has not ever wanted to listen and has never tried to hold his tongue. His outlook is ‘suck it up and get over it’ but he expects me to listen and be patient when he’s having a bad day. Yesterday we exploded with each other, we both said things in anger and have both apologised, but after he went into so much detail about how dumb I am, I ended it. I regret it now, because i do really love him and so does my family. However I keep thinking if he can’t show any understanding or consideration then there’s probably no future? 

My boyfriend is going to his friends bachelors party next week. We were talking about previous parties he’s been to where there were strippers and he once kissed one of them while he was with his ex (5 years ago) he also told me about a time when a stripper grabbed his hands and let him play with her boobs (when he was single) I asked him if he would do that next week and his response was “yeah”. I then got upset and said that’s like cheating. He took it back and said he wasn’t thinking when he said that but now that he knows I would be uncomfortable with that, it’s not going to happen. I feel like sh!t now... he cheated on his ex with a stripper and never told her, now I feel awful thinking he might do things he shouldn’t and I’ll never know. Am I over thinking this? It’s just a stripper, there’s no emotional connection... would it matter? 

Also, the fact that he said “now that I know it makes you uncomfortable” - like he wants to but will only control himself cause I said so?? 

I’m a positive person and prefer to see the glass half full, my boyfriend is almost completely opposite. For example, my friend gave me a pair of earrings for my birthday, they weren’t really my style but I was so happy that she made the effort to get me something, my boyfriend said “it’s not really anything to be excited about...” or my sister got pregnant, I was so excited for her but her boyfriend is not the most responsible person so my boyfriend said “oh god they’re fu’cked now” and continues to rant about how stupid it is. Today, Ive had a potential employer do reference checks for me and all 3 of my referees called me to say that they have a good feeling about this and thinks I’m going to get the job. The potential employer even said “I’m so happy to have her as part of my team” - I was excited, told my boyfriend and he just told me not to get my hopes up because people can talk sh!t. I feel like whenever I’m excited he just has to poke holes in it... but I know I shouldn’t be letting it affect me. I just don’t know how to change that 🤔

My boyfriend has just moved in with his friend and his friends mum, who has been so welcoming to both of us, even though I just go there once a week. So her birthday is coming up and we want to get her a gift but have no ideas since we don’t know her that well yet. We plan to take her out for dinner but also want to get her something...she’s 50, doesn’t go out, has a 22 year old son and husband in Sri Lanka. She doesn’t wear make up, we know she wouldn’t use a spa or massage voucher. All she really does is cook and clean....any ideas?? 

My ex boyfriend and I have started dating again, I told him I want to take things slow and see if we can work through things. He met my parents, they really liked him but he doesn’t know the rest of my family. For Christmas, I’d like him to have dinner with my parents and me... but I will have a separate event with extended family. I’ve known him for 6 months, is it wrong of me to not want him to meet everyone yet? I don’t want him to feel like I’m using him or I’m not serious.. but being in lockdown put strain on the relationship so I want to see what our relationship can be like after lockdown, if it can work. 

My boyfriend confuses me in the way he talks. Sometimes he responds to a question or statement and just sounds aggressive and patronising in his tone... but he says he’s not angry. He will often point out things I say or do that are “stupid” or “annoying” it seriously makes my blood boil sometimes when he puts so much emphasis on the word “stupid”. I’ve told him it upsets me and he just says that he says it but he doesn’t mean I’m stupid or annoying. Over time I’ve started feeling self conscious around him, I feel like my self esteem us getting slowly destroyed. 

Im 28 years old, am I too sensitive? I’ve thought about breaking up with him many times, but then I wonder if I need to toughen up. At my age I feel like I should be able to disregard these things and not let it do this to me

I bought something on eBay almost 4 weeks ago, immediately after making the purchase I realised it wasn’t what I needed so I sent a message to the seller and asked if it was possible to cancel it and refund my money, or if I had to wait until it arrives. I got no response. 

A week later a sent another message asking what is happening with the order, no response. 

This kept happening until the 4th message I sent her and now it says “cancellation pending” - she says she cancelled it the day I sent the message and it’s up to eBay to refund me. Is this true? How do I get in contact with eBay?