AlabamaRoping

We've been married almost 9 years. There are times I desire spicing things up a little more than she does. Exact details don't matter. She's about 2 notches more conservative than me, so on a 10 point kinky scale, let's say that I'm a 5 and she's about a 3.

I don't want to make her uncomfortable or to possibly feel that my love for her is conditional on doing something, but I would like to try to get her to push her comfort zone a little and see if maybe she likes it.

I'd like any advise that you have on approaching this in a loving manner.

I had a theory the other day. If a girl works at Hooters, then she's obviously quite comfortable with her body and dealing with guys being stupid guys, etc.

So, while you wouldn't ask MOST women about whether or not they have implants, is it different for Hooters girls?

Almost every night my wife and I will sit on the couch with her head on my leg and I'll play with her hair.

It's nice, sweet time together.

A couple of nights ago, I told her that I'd occasionally like to feel "adored". I'd like to get rubbed on, have my hair played with, arm rubbed, or something to be the recipient of affection. She seemed surprised. We discussed things calmly (as we typically do), and I found out that the thought of it had never really crossed her mind. She considered HER laying in MY lap as HER giving ME affection. I admitted it was nice, but nothing makes a man feel more empowered than being the recipient of his wife's undivided attention. (more surprise).

She said that she had never been all "loving", and was wondering why I was asking her to change the base of her personality. She stated that she had never asked me to change my personality when in reality she has, but she'd never stated it in that way.

Is this odd of me? Odd of her? Any thoughts or opinions would be appreciated.