OllieR

Hi,

Ive been speaking to this girl for around 2 and a half months now, shes a great girl both in looks and in person, Were both are attracted to each other there is no doubting that, however over the last month or so, its become a really dragged out process, nothing seems to be moving forward and we argue but thats because there is a battle for dominance. She wants to be dominant and so do I. Ive only met her twice since in the last month and times that we have arranged to meet she often cancels and makes excuses.

She also seems like she doesn't think that im interested as much as I am, but im not willing to commit to something if the other person is not giving something back. I offer to call her, meet her etc and she is the one blocking it.

We have had conversations where we discuss if we should just leave it but every time we end up just forgetting about it and carrying on. However its now becoming so dire that im considering just telling her I dont want to talk to her no more. I do really like her but it seems to me she just dont have the time or something.

Thoughts and advice?

Thank you

Hi,

Ive been talking to this girl for around a month, we get on, argue a bit but she says she likes me and i do too.

What im asking on here though is in the past ive had girls with exs still knocking around getting involved etc. Now this girl im seeing at the moment split up with her ex of three years in January. The first time I met her, her ex was sending constant messages and ringing her which i was suspicious about, an ex wont ring/message that many times unless the girl is providing communication back. She also said she went and saw him because he said he was going to kill himself and she told me that he hit her but then later said he just pushed her against a wall, also when she was on her phone i glanced over and noticed she was still had recent messages with him.

Also last week she said she was with friends and i noticed her location was different to usual so i questioned her which turned into an argument where she said she was at her dads and didnt want anyone knowing as they dont talk etc carrying on she also then said her dad didnt live at the place she was that night and that her gps was wrong? I just find that all a little odd as shes never actually stated clearly why she was there and I know that gps is not wrong at all.

Furthermore ive started to notice she is using whatsapp really late in the night and considering i speak over facebook to her thats kinda odd.

I always trust my gut feeling but i wanted to get second thoughts on it.

Thanks

Hi,

I tested positive for chlamydia a couple of weeks ago without knowing and since have had the relevant treatment to get rid of it. I know they do the syphilis and hiv tests as routine but for some reason im so scared/worried I'm unlucky enough to have hiv.

I've had no symptoms at all and the girl I'm seeing has had blood checks when she was in hospital and nothing came up. I don't know whether I'm just worrying too much.

I have read up about it and like ive said I've had no primary symptoms nor latter ones.

So me and this girl have become really good friends over the last 5 months or so and since new year we have kissed each other and both met each others parents and doing things more than usual friends would do. Its worth noting that I we havent done anything sexual, although she has brought up the topic and was quite detailed about it.

She however has an ex she still has feelings for and is trying to put it in the past as he cheated on her etc. Last week when I asked her if she would see the time we spent together as something more, she said at the minute she is 'tied up' and is dealing with getting over her ex before pursuing anything like that. She also said to me she needs time and probably longer. I told her that that she can take as much time as she needs as im not going anywhere and accepted what she said. I think she realizes that im prepared to wait for when the time is right.

But What does this mean? Does she want to be more than friends in time?

Advice please, thank you!

Hi, I met this girl at Halloween and since then we have been talking. Up until NYE I thought it was purely a friendship that was until we ended up spending the whole night together and we ended up getting with each other on multiple occasions and she stayed with me for the next night.

- She has brought up sex telling me what she likes and when she last had sex

- She wanted me to meet her parents and has met mine

- Slight signs of attraction, like we are at the kissing stage

- She has slept in the same bed with me multiple times

- She cares what her first impression of her to me was

- Shes told me about quite personal things and vice versa

These are not in order but there the most memorable things I can remember from her. I haven't attempted to try and sleep with her because Im really not sure whether she likes me for definite or not, one thing I do know is that I have ended up liking her way more than I even planned.

I do plan on telling her but i need to know if she feels the same.

Thanks

Im a little bit puzzled at the moment as to where I stand with this one particular girl.

Met her at a Halloween party and quite literally got on from their, she then added me on facebook and before I know it we are talking pretty much every day.

Since we live a little distance away as Im university, she usually comes up for events etc and thats how I have got to know her more, on top of speaking to her over text and facebook etc. She was seeing another boy around a month ago but has said she dont know why she was seeing him and knew it was not going anywhere, this has all blown over now.

On New Years eve however we started getting with each other whilst we was out and then she stayed at mine for the next night. A few nights ago we arranged to meet and head out for food with another couple. She then stayed at mine.

My problem is this, I dont know whether I am in the friend zone or not, for example we have shared the same bed on three occasions and nothing has happened, yet over the phone we have talked about sex etc. Another thing I have noticed is that Im kissing her less often which im completely unsure on.

I dont know whether its her waiting for me to get things rolling or if these are signs of simply being in the friend zone, the reason I am unsure is because theirs things that happen/happened that make me think im not, like i have kissed her on multiple occasions, talked about personal things and speaking to her about sex which she started the conversation on. She also wanted me to her meet her mum and step dad which I have and she has also met my family, which would kind of be unnecessary if we were just friends.

What are you thoughts and what should I do?

Thanks

Hi,

So on Saturday morning when I woke up, I had a slight ache on my right testicle. At first I waved it off thinking it was just something random.

It is now Wednesday and although the pain in my opinion is not as much no more, like for example 2 days ago I couldn't feel my testicle without it hurting, whereas now I can to a certain extent, but in general it does feel like it is gradually withdrawing. The right testicle is slightly bigger than the left but again it seems more like the skin has got 'fatter' around it. The pain is not constant, in fact I would say the best way to describe it is that its minimally painful if I do something to provoke it. It can be felt however if I have been sitting down for a long period of time.

On top of that though, I would say the majority of pain actually feels like it is coming from the veins connecting my testicle and slightly above where the intestines are. If I take a painkiller it seems to sort it out and the last day, painkillers have not been needed.

I am going to leave it for another few days and base that as to whether I go to the doctors or not as it may just be a injury caused somehow that dies down after a period of time.

Would anyone like to tell me what this could possibly be or if they have had something similar?

Thanks.

So heres the story:

I met this girl through my friends girlfriend as she works with her. We get along well and shes a genuinely really nice girl that has not got a bad bone in her body. Ive been on a night out with her multiple times now, but there has been certain moments which has lead me to ask this question. The second time we went out, me and her were dancing together and at times she was grinding on me, the third was a halloween party and we spent a majority of time together, and even walked 2 miles to a shop at 2am! The last time I saw her we all went out and again we had spells of dancing with each other etc, then when we got back we stayed at a friends and had a cuddle, at times I even had my hands in places you dont usually have them if you know what I mean, however I didnt carry on with this because Im not the kind of guy to do stuff with a girl then just ditch her so I refrained from doing it in case it damaged my chances. Also whilst we where cuddling she moved her face directly in front of mine as if she wanted me to kiss her but again I wasnt too sure because a) i dont want to ruin my chances b) i struggle to read her.

When she goes back home, we talk from time to time not all day everyday but we do talk to say the least, tonight we talked for a good few hours and were exchanging snapchats quite frequently. She also said she will come down to Bristol to see me, whether she means that as friend or more I cant tell...

I wont see her now till the beginning of February as she is traveling for a month at the start of January. I dont know whether I should make a move before or after shes back.

Sorry for the essay but I would like to get a second opinion on this scenario as I like this girl a lot.

Thanks!

Since moving to Bristol to start uni, I have indulged in the underground music scene including places like Motion and Lakota, ive seen possibly the best acts in the genre(s) im looking to do. I have also found a DJ course in the local area. I have become inspired to learn how to play on the decks and produce a good song/mix.

My question is im 18 so would I be leaving it too late? and how long does it take to become fluent on the decks? I seriously would consider a career in doing this if I could make a bit of a name for myself.

Thanks

Hi,

So i meet this girl at uni in the laundry where im staying, we get chatting etc and exchange numbers, I text her the next day and shes texting back quite quickly with the texts being quite lengthy.

I text her today and she texts back quickly, to which i reply and since then nothing, its like she is quite literally just ignoring me. I also said to her the reason why I asked for her number was because id like to get to know her more and if she wanted too we could go do something, which she said yes too!

I simply dont understand how a girl can be chatty with you in person, text quite lengthy texts to you and even agree to meet you then all of a sudden you get nothing? I sent her a message on facebook asking if she had received my text back, but she hasn't even read that?

I dont want to bombard her because thats not the way i work and girls dont like that sort of thing.

What do you recommend that i do?

Thanks

Hi,

Im thinking of writing a story. I have a basic plot and a majority of the characters thought of, however the problem im having is this

The main character is the only person who knows of this secret thing that he must keep a secret at all costs. I however am having trouble thinking what it should be, I thought something along the lines of something that makes you immortal but yet a normal human being and that the person who has to keep it secret is part of a secret colt of creators of the item that makes you immortal.

I do however think it could be changed which is where Im hoping you can help!

What do you think would be something that everybody wants and if it was real it had to be kept a secret but a cult etc

Be creative! and thanks for any ideas!

Hi,

I was seeing a girl for around 3 months and we clicked, she got me I got her, same personality, she was perfect for me.

We fell out because we was both out and I pushed her, I was basically paralytic as it was my 18th and have no memory of this whatsoever, but I understood why because her ex had been abusive in the past so she put up a barrier.

Anyway we fell out for a month or so and in that period of time, shes unfriended me, blocked me on whatsapp, I've had her hit me, she spoke to an ex about me and her best mate come up to me and said she still loves me but wants time?

Last weekend though she messaged me saying sorry for being a ***** and that she does want to be friends, I accepted that and agreed, she said she didn't want me to say sorry and that we should leave it at that in terms of saying sorry.

She's also got a jumper back that I've asked back for countless times she says she will give it back and that's about it, it's as if she don't want to give it back.

Getting to the point, over the period of time we've fallen out I started to get over her in little bits, it didn't seem to hurt as much no more, but on Saturday I was out and as I was heading into the toilets, she tapped me on the shoulder and hugged me, we had a brief chat and that was that, I saw her again the smokers area and she said hello again and put her hand on my face for reasons I do not know!

Seeing her just made me fall back in love with her, I realised I'm nowhere near getting over her, she's my first love and I honestly pray that one day we can get things going again. I don't know if she still has feelings for me, she said she was in love with me when we was seeing each other and the night before we fell out we basically had verbally agreed to be going out, for all I know she could be seeing someone else by now. All I know is that I still love her and as much as I hate to admit it I want to get back with her.

I want to talk to her and see where I really stand but I know sh

Hi,

So basically I was seeing this girl for around 5 months and everything was going great, we was practically going out and both said we was in love etc. Anyway we fell out because of me being stupidly drunk and pushing her & because she had an abusive ex she won't forgive me.

Between then and now we've had a few arguments, I've tried to make it up by sending flowers and even booking a weekend away but she won't have it.

Last weekend her best mate came up to me and said "she still loved me and that she's not talking to anybody else" but then on the Sunday when we was out the girl I was seeing was pushing me, punched me and even her other mate did! I didn't react to it because that's what she wants is a reaction. I simply ignored it and carried on as I was.

Skip forward to Thursday she changed her cover photo to a photo she sent me back in February which was random and has no meaning what so ever yet she changed her cover photo to it? I liked it to show her I had acknowledged it but haven't heard anything since.

So basically we fell out, I tried to make up, we've had a few arguments, her best mate says she needs time and "she still loved me" yet the next night she's hitting me etc and then the cover photo? She also won't give one of my jumpers back which she said she would?

I don't wanna talk to her though because I know she will be kicking off, but maybe I could use th jumper as an excuse?

Would you say that cover photo is a sign? and what she did on Sunday? Because to her I've acted like I've just got my head down and got on with it.

So what do you think?

Hi,

I've got a bit of a story to tell you of me and this girl I was seeing for around 3 months.

So we met and hit off instantly, long chats, phone calls and then meeting, we clicked straight away both had the same sense of humour and both made each other happy. We used to meet each other basically everyday and done a lot of things together. However one night on my birthday celebrations I was extremely drunk and can't even remember the night, which I made the biggest mistake of my life, I pushed her aggressively and said I hated her, why? I don't know I'm an idiot, because this girl was the first girl I've ever loved and she loved me too or so she said.

We have fallen out since and that was three weeks ago on Sunday. Ill breakdown how each week went.

The first week was me basically apologising etc and saying how much of a mistake I had made, I even sent her flowers and went to her house personally to apologise but she told me to go away, in that week she said i she knew I wasn't like that but then said she wanted to leave it, then she said she "don't know" skip forward to that Saturday and I saw her out, she didn't want to speak to me at first but at the end of the night we spoke and she was basically having a go at me because of what I'd done. We got the same taxi back with a few people and agreed to talk in the morning, we never did although I had sent her a message and she had seen it.

The Monday following I sent her a message saying she was selfish, out of order etc for the fact that I'd tried so hard to make it up to her and she wasn't having any of it, however I done this to get a reaction and she gave me one as She then replied saying I thought after time we could of sorted things, she then said she thought I was different but now I wasn't and it ended up with her blocking me on whatsapp. I then sent her a text explaining why I sent that message to get a reaction and said I will give her time. So the Friday just gone I thought I would show her how much I really cared and decided to buy her tickets to go Madrid, I dropped those into her work with a card. She then messaged me saying she couldn't believe what I had done, but still was not giving in, she started sending me lengthy essays about her ex being violent cause he beat her up and cheated, and it resulted in us having an argument, she then rang me saying the only reason we fell out was cause of the push. Saturday I saw her out but didn't speak to her, but her best friend came up to me and said "she really likes me but she needs time" on the Sunday I asked if I can get my jumper back and she said she would bring it in to college on the Monday, she didnt so I messaged her yesterday and she said ill get it on the Wednesday, we then had another argument which was basically her saying "I'm horrible" "what lad pushes a girl" "I'm controlling" and that she seems to think I say to every girl I love them even though I've only ever met one girl before, which brings me to my next point, she said to me past night that I said to this other girl I love her (which I hadn't) I simply liked her that's all. She then she was going to block me on facebook but didn't. I then decided to message this girl who I was meeting before and she basically said she had never said that and every time the girl I'm seeing now sees her she comes up to her telling her stuff about me and her. I've print screened the bit where she that shes never saud i loved her and I'm planning on sending it to the girl who Im seeing.

A little side story however, the girl I'm seeing has a horrible best friend who I know has turned her against me, she goes out with this best mate every night in her car and funnily enough i used to be friends with her and when I stopped meeting the first girl ages ago me and the best mate had a chat about it all, hence the reason why the girl I'm seeing now seems to think that I loved her because her best mate is stirring ****. At this moment in time shes angry with me and seems like she dont want anything to do with me, but surly if she said shes loves me and wanted to be in a relationship she can forgive me for all this? Ive never been so happy when i was with her shes perfect to me, everything about her i love, and what i did i hate myself for, i dont know why i did it! I just wish she saw how much i actually miss her, love her and want to put things right.

Im the most unviolent person you will ever meet, ive never had a fight in my life and i would never hit a girl becuase ive seen it first hand with my mum and dad, but she dont realise this even though ive told her.

What do you think? Honest opinions please

Thank you very much for reading this and to everyone that replys it means alot!

Thank you!

Hi,

So basically me and the girl I have been seeing for 3 months have had a massive falling our and at the minute were giving each other time, however the reason we fell out in the first place was because I pushed her when I was stupidly drunk and then it seemed to get worse from there, she's never officially called it off and we have spoken a bit since but on Sunday she said we would talk we didn't, I got fed up with her games and sent her a message in other words saying a few home truths and that I cba with her no more. She then told me she wanted to give it time to sort things out and that I was horrible for sending such a message, she then blocked me on whatsapp, later that night I texted her explaining why I had sent it saying that it was to get a reaction and that we was both in the wrong.

To make up for everything in general I'm planning to treat her to a long weekend away in Paris or Madrid etc she said she's always wanted to go away with me and I think this will show her how much I do care and actually love her.

What do you think?

Hi,

So a week on Sunday this girl I had been seeing for 3 months told me never to talk to her again for what I did whilst we was out, apparently I pushed her and told her to "**** off" I have no memory of this and it was my 18th

Last week consisted of her saying she wants to leave it but at the same time when I asked if it was over she never answered, after having a little argument, I asked for my jumper back and she rang me instantly and we had a casual chat?

On the Saturday we saw each other out and in the end we had a chat outside where she was a bit pissed off and she said she would talk to me tomorrow, she didn't message me although she had been online and I had messaged her, so I thought i would test how much she cares and the next day I sent her a message which in other words gave her some home truths about how selfish she had been and that she had lost something good etc

She replied back saying she wanted to give it time to sort things? But she's never once said it, she then basically picked things out I said on the message and was just saying that I'm horrible, she then blocked me on whatsapp, but again she still hasn't said its over? After that I text her explaining what I had done and she didn't reply.

I think she was playing games and where I was in the wrong she had the power and didn't think I would call it off, but by me giving her that message she has realised how much I have tried by sending flowers, apologising and even going to her house! Therefore she don't want to admit it because it will look bad on her.

I'm thinking of buying her a rose, tickets either abroad or to a festival and a card to make it up.

What advice would you give and do you think we can still get back together?

Help!

Hi.

Basically me and the girl I'm seeing have had a massive falling out and to sum it up its now got to the point where she said she hates me etc and then I said ill give her some time alone and not speak to her.

However I will definitely see her out tonight and have therefore composed a message which is either going to make or break us, it has my feelings in there and how much I care, love and miss her.

However here is my predicament if I sent it before she goes out tonight then when I see her she will either ignore me or say something, however if I don't send it till Monday for example then imagine if I saw her dancing or kidding someone else tonight it would break me.

What should I do?

Hi,

I was seeing a girl for around two months and nothing could of been better, we found each other funny, met quite a lotand it even got to the point where we both said we loved each other and said it to one another every day.

However last sunday i made a terrible mistake, I was out for my 18th birthday and being so drunk to the point I cant remember, I pushed her and said I hated her why? I dont know, Im an idiot. She then didnt speak to me until monday where she said she knew i wasnt like that and that she found it annoying how the day before we had the best time ever since we had been together.Tuesday she said she wanted to leave it then later said she dont know, Wednesday she said shes not giving

me another chance and then thursday she said I had made her hate me. I then messaged her saying ill give her time to calm down and let her make the right decison cause at the minute shes angry. Ive sent her roses and apologised many times.

I must admit i have sent her quite a few messages which must of put her off a little, but it shows i care although she was saying stuff like im making it feel like her ex and that ive made her cry lots. But since yesterday ive left her alone. She did ring me after all this and asked if my status was about her, after that we had a casual chat and she even asked if I was in college and what i was doing today?

Her best mate popped up on facebook ysterday and was saying stuff like she was only ever meeting you and that she didnt want a relationship and that she never loved me even though we was seeing each other and she always used to say she loved me. Her mate even sent messages of her saying she hated me and saying she didnt love me which was sent at the same time :( I

think her mate however has been influencing her not to make up with me and putting her off me. Like she started saying the stuff i had done for a previous girl i liked which her mate knew about and has obviously told her, so now she thinks i dont even love her and that i say it to every girl when i dont!

Can someone please help me? I love this girl, the first time this has happened What do i do? and does she really want to end it? I dont get how one minute shes saying she hates me etc then the next she rings me and has a casual chat? One last thing I asked for my jumper back and she was like "yeah fine whatever" which surly means she dont really want to give it back, she said she will message me about it and still hasnt?

Its killing me, I miss her so much and little things what we did, Im so depressed.

Hi,

So ive been seeing this girl for three months and everything was great, we get along, we laughed and we even said that we honestly have fallen in love with each other.

However last sunday, I was out for my 18th and being so drunk to the point i cant remember, I pushed her, told her i hate her and said she slept with this boy who she hadnt, I have no memory of doing such a thing and have sworn on my dads ashes to her how sorry I am and that I dont remember doing it. She said on tuesday she thinks we should leave it then later that night, she said dunno about it, wednesday came and she said she wanted to leave it and that I wasnt getting another chance. Today her mate messaged me saying stuff like she was only ever meeting you and didnt want it to be serious and that she didnt love me which is lies in my eyes seeing as she told me shes in love and wanted us to be in a relationship, but her mate sent me messages that she had sent to her saying she dont love me and that im messed up? these messages were sent whilst i was speaking to her mate, I think her mate was just being like that obviously because the girl im seeing has fallen out with me and she is her best mate, but at the same time I think her mate has been putting her off me by saying bad things about me and my ex girlfriend of how I bought her flowers and wanted to go away together and the girl Im seeing said all this back to me, I sent her flowers yesterday to make up for it as well. On top of that I put my hands up and say i have messaged her a bit too much which made her say i was like her ex and that ive made her hate me.

I then sent her message saying shes been influenced by her friend and that im going to give her some space and time to make the right decision on us, and that im only a phone call away and that I love her very much. She saw the message but didnt reply.

However I asked for my jumper back after all this and she was like "yeah fine whatever" and then rang me an hour later and said she had it indoors, she then asked if i was coming into college today and we had a brief but casual chat on the phone even after she said all those things.

So at this moment in time, I think her friend is playing a big part in turning her against me for the fact shes jealous of me and her and that she knew my ex. Surly though if she said she loves which she has multiple times and weve had the relationship talk, then what shes saying to her mate is lies but why is she saying different to her mate? Its possible its out of anger hence why i think she needs some time to calm down, miss me and the little things we did together and then realise how much she cares for me and what a mistake it was to not give me a chance.

So what do you think? I love this girl shes my first love and i would do anything for her, i messed up but ive said sorry a million times and also sent flowers to her house, she said shes knows im not like that but ive pushed her further away but constant messages and her best mate twisting the knife.

What do you honestly think shes going to do? Please help me!

Thanks for reading!

Hi,

So me and this girl have been seeing each other for a couple of months now and it's great we love each other, have a laugh and get along really well

However on Saturday night we was out in a club and she ignored me twice when I saw her and when I did again, being stupidly drunk I said to her "I f*cking hate you" she then text me saying "don't ever speak to me again" and I don't know why I said it I'm literally in love with her and wouldn't want to lose her, because of saying something idiotic and being drunk.

Today we didn't speak so I decided to go to her house to say sorry, when I texted her saying I was outside she told me to "go away" and not to give her the card and a little teddy thing I bought her, but I left them both there.

I then asked if she still wanted to carry on seeing me and she don't answer the question she just diverts it to something else, I love her and she loves me, I just feel so bad for what I said and totally regret it.

So what do I do? Please help!

Thank you