Melly

My boyfriend of 4 mths has only been intimate with older women around 40-60 years old. When we first started dating he mentioned how he met this 60 year old woman and was feeling very lonely . He said he didn’t like her for her looks but for her personality and they only hugged and kissed. He told me he would never be in touch with any women he has slept with while with me but asked if I was ok with him checking in on her as she is very unwell and he was worried about her. She has had a very hard life , suspects she has ms and her daughter stopped taking to her, her husband abused her and her daughter. He asked me at the time if I was ok while we began dating if he checked in as he worries about her. I didn’t think much of it at the time and said yes as I felt sad for her. He didn’t even want to show me a picture of her as he said that he didn’t go for her for her looks. He told me he spoke to her recently and he told her about us and she wished us congratulations . He asked me if I’m ok with him talking to her once every few months , if not rarely. He wanted to sleep with her she didn’t allow it. He wants to marry me and I’m in love with him and he says he is in love with me. I said I was ok with them talking but it made me uncomfortable hearing about it and he said he would completely understand if I said I wasn’t ok with it and would stop. I said I was fine with it. It wasn’t a relationship . Is it ok to be ok with it even though it makes me feel slightly uncomfortable ? 

My boyfriend of 4 mths has only been intimate with older women around 40-60 years old. When we first started dating he mentioned how he met this 60 year old woman and was feeling very lonely . He said he didn’t like her for her looks but for her personality and they only hugged and kissed. He told me he would never be in touch with any women he has slept with while with me but asked if I was ok with him checking in on her as she is very unwell and he was worried about her. She has had a very hard life , suspects she has ms and her daughter stopped taking to her, her husband abused her and her daughter. He asked me at the time if I was ok while we began dating if he checked in as he worries about her. I didn’t think much of it at the time and said yes as I felt sad for her. He didn’t even want to show me a picture of her as he said that he didn’t go for her for her looks. He told me he spoke to her recently and he told her about us and she wished us congratulations . He asked me if I’m ok with him talking to her once every few months , if not rarely. He wanted to sleep with her she didn’t allow it. He wants to marry me and I’m in love with him and he says he is in love with me. I said I was ok with them talking but it made me uncomfortable hearing about it and he said he would completely understand if I said I wasn’t ok with it and would stop. I said I was fine with it. It wasn’t a relationship . Is it ok to be ok with it even though it makes me feel slightly uncomfortable ? 

My boyfriend of 4 mths has only been intimate with older women around 40-60 years old. When we first started dating he mentioned how he met this 60 year old woman and was feeling very lonely . He said he didn’t like her for her looks but for her personality and they only hugged and kissed. He told me he would never be in touch with any women he has slept with while with me but asked if I was ok with him checking in on her as she is very unwell and he was worried about her. She has had a very hard life , suspects she has ms and her daughter stopped taking to her, her husband abused her and her daughter. He asked me at the time if I was ok while we began dating if he checked in as he worries about her. I didn’t think much of it at the time and said yes as I felt sad for her. He didn’t even want to show me a picture of her as he said that he didn’t go for her for her looks. He told me he spoke to her recently and he told her about us and she wished us congratulations . He asked me if I’m ok with him talking to her once every few months , if not rarely. He wanted to sleep with her she didn’t allow it. He wants to marry me and I’m in love with him and he says he is in love with me. I said I was ok with them talking but it made me uncomfortable hearing about it and he said he would completely understand if I said I wasn’t ok with it and would stop. I said I was fine with it. It wasn’t a relationship . Is it ok to be ok with it even though it makes me feel slightly uncomfortable ? 

He says he wished he slept with more women before me. I understand, we have not had sex for a long time because I am not well. So I can't be harsh on him? I might get better, but in the meantime he is still with me and I should I just let this slide?

At work I'm responsible for dealing with a lot of money. My boss asked me to put £1000 pounds aside from the days earnings , so in an envelope I put 10 10 pound notes, labelled it £1000 and put it in the safe. I was ill that day so things were not registering, it did not register that I'd put £100 rather than £1000. Two other people know the key to the safe. They always just ram things in there and make a mess inside. The next morning I again opened the envelope and counted 10 £10 notes just to make sure it was all in there. Still did not register.

The next evening my boss called to ask where the envelope was. I told him it was upright in the safe, labelled. He couldnt find it anywhere. Someone had stolen it. He called again the next day and it registered that it was £100. I told him this, and he got really annoyed that he had to go to the store again and that he hadnt been feeling well. And if he'd known it was only £100 he wouldnt have stressed so much. My point is, if the envelope had not been stolen, he would have seen it was £100 and not £1000. And it's not my fault the other guys are so messy. Is what I've done really bad? He could just take the £900 from his account. That;s where it went.