Sarah

My husband and I have been married for over a year and half. Ever since we have been renting out the basement at his sister’s house. I was never comfortable and never felt at home. For example the laundry room is right in front of our bedroom, I can’t tell you how many times, his sister husband has walked down and saw me in underwear, to use the kitchen I have to wait for them to finish because they have kids and they need to get them to bed, I can’t buy a lot of food because we only get on shelve on the fridge, it’s many little things that after a year and half it’s driving me crazy. I always liked to have my space and my privacy that’s the person I am and I feel like being married and not having our own place it’s very frustrating. My husband understand but doesn’t seem too interested in moving out. There’s always something, we need more money, we need better credit, we need to wait for the market to go down. The last straw was his sister got an aupair, so now there’s 7 people living in this house, it’s one more person coming downstairs to do laundry and I’m at a point that it’s making me question my marriage because I’m so depressed at this house, I spent the entire day working and was happy and all, as soon as I walked through the door, I started to get depressed and negative and I feel that it’s hurting my mental health. Am I wrong here? Am I the only one that think that couples should have their own place and be by themselves in the beginning of their marriage?