Help Fixing my relationship problem?

I'm sorry but why are you doing this to yourself? Seems to me you dont think highly of yourself if you think she can do better...Let me tell you what you are doing is damaging to your relationship, if you want to lose her keep telling her that she could find someone better...Here is the reality of this dude...Stop doing this, if she wanted to be with someone else she would have dumped you already...Stop feeling sorry for yourself, stand proud and be a man...Know that people decide what they want to do on their own, you cant force her to stay or to leave, just be grateful everyday that your the one she loves...You dont need help fixing this relationship, you need help fixing yourself...she doesn't have this problem its your low self esteem....

i don't think that you are doing anything wrong at all. it's normal to worry that your significant other may find someone "better" than you. everyone is a little "paranoid", even if they don't admit to it. it sounds like you love her very much, and are insecure about yourself. but it also sounds like she feels the same way. i don't think she feels she can do better than you. i doubt you really want her to go out and try to find someone better, because to her, you are the best. i don't think there is a trust issue or anything here, just that you're afraid of what can happen. you're afraid that she will leave you, and maybe she feels the same way about you. i think you should talk to her about it, and just think about it some more. nothing that anyone on here tells you to say to her will be as real as something that comes from your heart. what you say to her needs to have meaning. i'm sure you'll come up with something to fix your so called "problem". i hope everything works out okay.

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You have huge self-esteem issues. For some reason you don't think you are good enough for this girl. I have no idea why, you haven't indicated any reason for you belief, other than her being a nice person. Maybe you are romanticizing her good points because you love her so much, she is probably just a normal girl in love with a normal guy. Anyway, aren't you selling her short? Would such a great girl stick around with a loser???? I don't think so.

Next time you see her, just think about how lucky she is to have found you, that you love her more than anyone else possibly could, and how important that is in her life.

PS. Sounds like a little separation anxiety too, since she is going to a larger school. Put your faith in her, and keep in touch as much as possible to reassure her of how you feel.

Do the opposite of EVERYTHING you described. Man no wonder she needs her space. Honestly if you don;t want to lose her why are you doing everything you can to drive her away, or make her feel guilty that she isn't feeling the same things you are. Get some interests OTHER than her... do stuff... keep busy whatever it takes to NOT be in her space... let her know you love her sure... but dont do the romantic thing or schedule a DATE NIGHT wtf dude are you 60! She is looking for fun, strength, independance and excitement... confidence and leadership from you she doesnt want a puppy around feet picking up emotional scraps... cmon you obviously care about her... and you are obviosly not stupid... start reading about what ACTUALLY attracts women beofre you screw up completely ... because if you dont change direction immediately and you haven't lost her to someone else already then you very soon will.... Good Luck Benjamin

Low self esteem, this is a common problem in relationships and is pretty normal especially when one is going off to a new place/ college where there are alot of new people. The most important thing in any relationship is communication, talk to her about your fears but don't seem to clingy. You've been together for a while with no apparent problems, don't worry so much, let her know about your concerns and go from there. I wish you both all the luck in the world, relationships are not easy but they are well worth the effort, time and dedication put into them.

I bet you think like this all of the time. I thought like this with MY gf when we first started. She is too beautiful for me to have but I have her now for 5 years! Trust me, there wasn't a day that went by that I didn't think the way you do now. All you can do really is tell her this and hope that she only wants YOU. Try to enjoy your time with her now and take it one day at a time. And if you guys are meant to be together then it'll work out! Just love her right and don't give her a reason to leave you!

Good luck!

Duh, this is not E-Harmony here...you might be on two different levels but you are in love. That really is all that matters. Maximum we get 120 years, thats it...no matter how many degrees, or inventions or clever things were not living any longer so you need to do one of two things, try to spend most of your years left in this life positive, and second give and accept love as much as possible. Thats all we really get, so it dosent matter about the other things, they dont really save us, but to each other when we comfort and love each other it makes it so much better in life. Take Care-Rachel

You don't have a relationship Problem..

If you kep thinking that she can find someone else but she think's you two are just perfect for each other. That will drive her away from you.

Good luck!

May GOD bless you and your family throughout this new year!

you're paranoid my friend and you lack self-confidence. enjoy a good thing which you have right in front of you!

You are crazy.