Ladies: Can you give me your opinion on this?

Question

So. I'm at a birthday party last night, and I see this girl that I haven't seen since New Year's Eve.  We get along good, and we've seen each other at past gatherings, but it took a while for us to start speaking to each other.  But, on New Year's Eve, we kissed.  Last night, she was giving me signs that she was interested in pursuing something (possibly more serious)----not sex, but relationship-wise.  

When it came time to leave, I asked for her phone#, and she told me: "I don't have a phone".  I didn't believe that s#!t, I figured something else was going on.  Later that night, I come to find out that she's still having issues with her baby's father.  

I like this girl, and I would like to advance the relationship, but I don't want to force it.  So ladies, I would be interested in hearing your opinion on this matter.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

She's obviously confused on her current drama & probably wants to be with someone else (possibly you) but shes wrapped up in her own sh^T right now.  So she gives the signs to keep you interested while shes trying to sort her life out in the meantime.  Its head games girls can play when they are wanting to pursue new territory but aren't done with past issues.  So I would just kinda try to talk to her as much as possible and see what unfolds when she's ready.

coogs · Answer

If she was 'giving you signs' she was interested in more, but then doesn't want to give you a way to contact her....hmmm, I don't know. I wouldn't get your heart involved just yet, that's for sure. Now that the parties over, how are you gonna pursue this anyway? If you see her again and YOU are still interested despite the baggage in her life, give her a way to contact you, then leave it at that. I'd be careful though, if you are looking for a realtionship with her, and she's looking for a friend w/ benefits...can your heart handle it? That is the real question you should ask yourself. Good luck!

Cara M · Answer

Maybe she is too involved in her issues with the baby's father to be involved with someone right now. I think her telling you that she doesn't have a phone number is a definite sign she was probably playing with you. Some girls do that because they like the attention. Nearly everyone has some way they can be reached if they want to be, a landline, a cell, a friend, relative or work.

erika r · Answer

Give it a rest. Maybe she was just caught up in the moment and kissed you because it was New Years Eve. Sometimes we think ahead of ourselves and drift off from reality for a while, but then it hits us and we realize that we just cant always have what we want.  When you hear she has resolved her issues with the kids dad, then maybe try again.

Helen of Troy · Answer

Don't get in the middle of something complicated,meaning know your boundaries and remember that if she's got a baby with someone else then think about what's best for them both

Anonymous · Answer

If I were this girl I would want your support for right now in dealing with my ex and my child. Even though she might like you, she doesn't exactly have the emotional energy for a relationship. If you really like her, be there for her. Then as this blows over she'll be able to be with you fully.

More than a little insane :) · Answer

u might want to wait a while. give her some time to ressovle the issue w/ the baby's dad. maybe try again at the next gathering y'all are at.

onekenshinlover · Answer

If she didn't give you some way to contact her, then I don't think she's interested in pursuing a relationship with you.

Kat · Answer

If she's honestly going to give you as shitty a lie as "I don't have a phone" I'd hold off for a while until she has everything worked out.

Mandy · Answer

Shes lieing

Ladies: Can you give me your opinion on this?

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