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Ladies: Can you give me your opinion on this?
So. I'm at a birthday party last night, and I see this girl that I haven't seen since New Year's Eve. We get along good, and we've seen each other at past gatherings, but it took a while for us to start speaking to each other. But, on New Year's Eve, we kissed.
Last night, she was giving me signs that she was interested in pursuing something (possibly more serious) relationship-wise. She was asking questions, like: "Do you like children?" and "Would you be with a woman who already has kids?"...stuff like that.
When it came time to leave, I asked for her phone#, and she told me: "I don't have a phone". I didn't believe that s#!t, I figured something else was going on. Later that night, I come to find out that she's still having issues with her baby's father, who she broke up with last year.
I like this girl, and I would like to advance the relationship, but I'm not going to force it. So ladies, I would be interested in hearing your opinion on this matter.
18 Answers
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavourite answer
i think you should wait a little, get to know her more. maybe she needs help with her baby's father. maybe somethings up, you should get to be her good friend. someone she can trust. before you try to make any moves that could ruin what you two have already.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Evidently, if she is struggling with some issues, she is in no place in her life for a relationship.
Although it seems she may be interested in a potential relationship in the future, I think she is recognizing that it is not presently the right time. Yes, it is frustrating that she broke up with this guy a year ago and it seems that any issues should be worked out by now, but give her the space she needs to sort things out, and she will greatly appreciate it.
Trying to force the relationship, as you said, is definitely not the right move. When the issues with her baby's father have been worked out, she will be more willing, and trust me, she will want to be with the man who was able to step back and give her the chance to breathe.
- trudycaulfieldLv 51 decade ago
Ask her out, and the first time you go out with her, make things light and fun, no talking about a serious relationship, and you can find out what she is really like, by judging her likeless and dislikness on resturants, drinks, and movies, whatever you do, go out and have fun, but tell her right out that you dont really want to talk about serious relationships right now, lets just have fun, plain and simple, see what happends, the real serious starts maybe if you have 3 or 4 dates with her
- 1 decade ago
This girl really seems like she's got some personal issues. If I were you, I'd back off. Even if she really doesn't have a phone, I'd consider that fishy. I would have though, given her YOUR number and if she really was interested, she would have found a way to come into contact with you. For right now, erase her from memory and move on. This situation doesn't sound like a good one. Good luck.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
i'm not sure if those questions were asked in the context of her wanting to date you, maybe she's just concerned about what her dating future is now that she has a kid... kind of like she's taking a poll. (just a guess, of course, body language and more conversation would give you a better idea of her intentions)
it sounds like her life is a little complicated right now. if you really like her, maybe you should try again in a few months. but if she's still playing the "i don't have a phone" game after a few months, i think you should just be friends.
- 1 decade ago
ya - it's rare that someone doesnt have a phone number - perhaps maybe a cell phone - but there's got to be a way that you should be able to contact her - if she's having issues with baby's daddy - then that's a definite reason that she wouldnt give you a number - ask for an email, im, address... or give her your number to contact you... good luck!
- 1 decade ago
well when u like someone all u can do is be there for them and support her untill she is ready for you and hopefully she will come around and give u a chance plz dont give up on here she is having a rough time right now and she needs a shoulder to cry
Source(s): im a ladie - k2t3Lv 51 decade ago
no wonder she was asking those questions. but honestly she may not have a phone. let her have your number and see if she is willing to call you and talk more. be her friend. if things between you 2 are meant to be things will happen..
good luck
- 1 decade ago
I think you should stay in touch with her. Let her know what your intentions are. Let her know you want to be by her side. Be there for her and understanding when it comes to her children and the children's father.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
well unless you have an issue about women who already have kids, wait until her life settles down, ask on a date, and go from there.