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Ladies / Gents: What should be my next move?

So, here's the deal.

I've had my eye on this really beautiful girl at work for awhile now. Anytime we've crossed paths, I would try to make eye-contact with her then say hello, but she'd never look at me. From a distance, she'd smile and joke with her friends, then as I'd approach, she'd get serious (all of a sudden). So, I figured maybe she's not interested.

Last Wednesday, I'm chatting with a mutual friend, and mention to her (how pretty I think her friend is and how mature she seems) "I wonder how old she is?". Our mutual friend says she will talk to her and then get back to me.

The next day, my friend tells me that I'm her friends "type" and she wants to know how old I am as well. She told me that she didn't even mention my name to her but she was able to guess it was me on the first try, because I am her type. She said her friend was smiling left and right. When she told me that, I starting smiling uncontrollably.

So, after-work, I'm getting scanned out by security (I work at a retail store) as I'm leaving the job, I see the girl about to leave as well (we make brief eye-contact) so I say to myself, let me make my move now. I walk out of the building to wait for her.

All of a sudden, this guy I've never seen before walks out the store. He stands about 3 yards away from me and starts to look inside the store. I'm doing the same thing, and I'm wondering: "Are we both waiting for her?". I'm looking at the guy, but he doesn't look back. When she finally walks out the job, he walks towards her and at this point I know they're together, because he starts carrying her bags and is walking with her.

Luckily, two of my co-workers walk out right behind her, so I don't look like a complete idiot. I chat it up with them for a minute, then we all go our separate ways.

The next day, I tell our mutual friend what happened and I ask her if that was the girl's boyfriend? She said that it might have been, but the girl told her they had broken up sometime last month. She told me that she can't stand that guy because he treats her friend so bad. I'm like if he treats her so bad, then why is she still with him?

I've been through this before, and I'm not trying to go through it again. I told my friend to talk to her and find out for sure what the situation is. That was on Friday. On Sunday I talked to my friend, but she forgot to ask the girl about what happened.

I'm starting to lose it here. I really like this girl, and now that I know she is interested as well, I need to know what's going on. I don't want to wait too long, but I don't want to push the issue.

Everyone's feedback is appreciated, but I'm very interested on the female's POV.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Dude you have to talk to her.. You should hear what she wants to say not only what your mutual friends says.. Have courage.. Eye contact is romantic but you have to talk to her.. Ask her what you want to know not someone else's idea .. Good luck.. God bless

  • 5 years ago

    Sounds much too good to be true. Have you seen this house? Have you seen his job and some of the people he works with? Have you even met any of his friends or family. My advice: SLOW DOWN. You know precious little about this man. You sound like a great catch yourself and he might be looking to move in with a woman who can take care of him and his kid. Especially in this economy, it seems sketchy. And remember that I could tell you I'm an 18 year old model, but I'm not. On the flipside, though, perhaps it could work out. My grandfather proposed to someone he met online after 6 months and they lived happily for 2 1/2 years before he passed on. Just give it time; what could it hurt? (Besides maybe your finances, since you live so far from each other.)

  • 1 decade ago

    I would just talk to the girl. Begin your relationship as a friendship, so you can find more out about her. Be friendly to her and then once you are both comfortable around each other, start flirting with her. If she doesn't have a boyfriend, then ask her out. If she does, just be her friend, and see where it goes from there. For me, relationships always work out better when they start out as friendships.

    I hope that helped :)

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    There could be several things going on here. One is that her boyfriend is controlling and is abusive. They could be engaged or married. who knows for sure? You need to be careful if that is the fact.

    The next is that she think is, you wouldn't be interested if you knew everything about her. I would wait to see how things go with her and her friend. ( It could be her brother) But ask someone about it and if they know anything about the relationship. Then go from there but don't just jump in, the water may be too high for you to swim in.

  • 1 decade ago

    Send her a card and ask if she got a boyfriend, and if she is interested in you.

  • 1 decade ago

    just talk to her already. stop with sending messages through her friend/your friend. see what's up if that was her man then leave her alone and move on.

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