18/25 and pregnant, telling the parents?

Well, that's an unusual age gap. If she's happy to carry the baby, then there isn't an awful lot you can do about it really. Maybe call her again and tell her that you don't want her to abort it, that you're just really apprehensive. And it is a big moment for you both, so it's kind of normal that you'd be a bit concerned.

As for telling your parents, can't imagine how I'd tell mine, but maybe bring her with you when you tell them. Sit down around a table sort of thing and discuss everything, like how involved you're going to be in the baby's life like is it going to be joint-custody, or is she going to be the primary care-giver? what about money - what kind of financial support do you both need, and could your parents help there? If not, do you have a steady job, or are you at school, or are you in college, how are you both going to provide for your baby. What kind of benefits are you entitled to from the state.

Really hope it turns out ok for you both,

Karen

This happened to me too. I was 25 and pregnant and he was 18. I have never seen him since, so thank you for being there for her!

Just bite the bullet and tell your parents. Hopefully, they can give you and the mom emotional support and good advice.

It might not be easy and it might not work out for the relationship in the end, but being a good person and being there for them the best thing for everyone involved.

Don't worry, she's likely just emotional and will come around. It appears at this point your the more mature one. When your 18 things seem like they are forever and all consuming.

Congratulations!!!

You should keep being persistent. Let her know that when you said you weren't ready you didn't mean you wanted to get rid of the baby. Tell her you want to be there for her, and that you will always be there for her. If she still doesn't want to talk to you, let her be for a couple of days and then try calling her.

As for your parents, just straight up tell them. There is no easy way for you to tell them then to say, you are going to be grandparents. They might get mad, they might not. They might give you a lecture and what you should have done to prevent this or they might not. You never know they just might be excited.

Im 21 and married and I told my mother 3 weeks of my pregnancy and she was like OMG you should have done this or that. Then she was just really excited

My point is your old enough to make your own choices in life and live up to the things you do.

Good luck

Hi I can understand how she feels, but at the end of the day your not ready but your dont want to get rid of your baby thank god, so what you are going to have to do is just get used to having to become a dad etc.

First things first, tell your parents and then tell your girlfriend that your parents know, this way she will probably realise that your really do want your baby.

How to tell your parents, is simple, just say to you mum or dad, or get them together and just say, Ive got some good new, me and (your girlfriends name) are going to have a baby, she is so and so months pregnant, and we are over the moon.

if there not happy about it, then thats there fault its your life and this is how its going to be.

Thats all we said and waited for our parents reactions and some people were a bit you know,but they accepted the fact, as at the end of the say there is nothing that they can do.

So thats all there is to it really, once you break the telling the parents bit everything becomes easier, trust me, then get on the phone to your girlfriend and tell her you, love her and you want this baby and that your parents know, and even get them to tell her and offer the congratulations to you both and then I think she will come round.

Truth be told ; she is the mother, it's really her decision to keep it or not. She can take your opinion in consideration though, which she should.. but she doesn't have to.

If she wants to keep the baby, then so let it be. Try to be supportive. It's now time to man up, sorry but it's true. You're 18 years old now, and should be responsible for your actions, regaurdless if it's what you wanted or not.. You and HER should tell both your parents together.

Alright...about your girl...you mad a bad move. Although, good for you trying to communicate your feelings...it just came across wrong.

I think you're trying to say that you're worried about the future and you're scared about becoming a father at your age and are nervous about being able to take care of and provide for a family. (I am not sure about this part.....It was something you wanted, you just didn't picture it so soon and you are nervous??)

One tip in preganncy...you're not going to get your hand held. Women FORGET to check in and see how you're doing. It seems so simple but really we're so into thinking of how the baby is growing, how we're feeling, how our bodies are changing, the baby after birth, the doc appoitments, the rest of the family getting excited with us....It's like BANG opps...I forgot to ask how YOUR day was.

So, don't get upset if she does kinda forget to ask how your day was....but, as you can tell she is worried about how you feel about the baby.

So, you need to take her out or cook for her and pamper her...buy her flowers...and then buy a little thing for the baby...like a baby blanket or get her a pregnany journal.

As for your parents just tell them. I am not that great at telling. But, remember you're an adult. Your parents don't control you....of course you want them in your life, but as an adult you can surive without them now. You want them to support you, but if they don't remember you'll live and be stronger for it. Just sit them down and remember to act confident even if you don't feel like it...don't act like it came at a bad time..you can have that conversation after the shock wears off.

If you don't already have a job then get one now to save up for baby. Your gf will appricate the efforts on your part to save up a baby fund, ask how she is, and help her out.

Remember though...communicate with her!!!! Don't stop communicating just make sure to express yourself well and be OPEN...don't say half of what you mean "I'm not ready"....but, it sounds like you also ment..."I will be"??? You have 9 months to prepare.

Good luck.

There is no easy way to tell your parents, I was so scared to tell mine, even though i was 21 and had been out of the house for years. It's still scary. I can suggest not doing it over the phone, Thats how i told my dad... it didn't go over to well. Just sit them down and explain.... then give them time, It will all work out. As far as you gf goes, she is just full of emotions and hormones, she'll come back... dont worry, at least you were honest with her..

wow they might freak out because of theage but so what my thing is you layed up you were ready then so be ready now just hold like a family meeting with your mom and dad and her's also then just tell then . yes you're gonna be a teen father but guess what they're million around but you be a good one

Flowers, Chocolates and a book on pregnancy and becomin a father. See what she says then. Also engagement?