Girlfriend and her Parents?

I do understand how hard it can be to have your parents not except the person you are with. If you really want to make things work with this girl, you may want to talk to her parents. I know it won't be easy, but maybe if you talk to them and ask them why they don't want you to date their daughter, then you can try to work past whatever issue they have. If you try to take the mature adult approach by talking to them, that may help. Good Luck!

It is very easy to want someone else to test their parents, especially if you do not really believe that it will turn out badly, but quite another tot est your own when you are not sure..so do not ask your girlfriend to do this. These are the people who loved her and raised her, they will always represent a large part of her sense of security and Identity and if she is forced to choose between you..well, there will never be a choice that does not hurt her.

You have to find out why her parents turned against you; they do not sound as if they are very old fashioned or controlling, so there must have been a reason of some sort and once you know what it was you can do something to put their minds at rest. As the two of you are not meant to be together at present..in their eyes at lest, it is for your girlfriend to find out what the problem is..and if they are reluctant or unwilling to tell her then she should certainly tell them that she still has strong feelings for you and needs to know why she ought not to act on them.

Of course you may not be able to change their minds, but at least you will know what the problems are and will be able to give it your best try before any unwelcome choices do have to be made.Try, when you are dealing with them , to remember that they care about their daughter and, however misguidedly, may only be trying to protect her.

Of COURSE you should care about how her folks think of you.

This is a 'no win' situation, and for many reasons, the first of which is that SHE has respect for her parents, and you don't.

Frankly, you're an arrogant guy - do you realize that? You're the big man because you're 18, you don't care what her folks think of you, and you 'quite happily put someone in their place' ... but yet you wonder why they don't like you? What you don't know about people is a lot.

What you need is to be taken down a notch. What you can do is show a little respect. What you can do is be GLAD that she hasn't tested her parents on their threat to kick her out, because you two are doomed until you BOTH grow up a little. She needs to become less dependent on her folks, and you need to learn how to be less of a punk. You're 18 and you think you know everything, when you don't. The thing is ... your lack of knowledge doesn't really hit you until you're around 25. At that time, you start understanding how little you know about life in general, and you start to grow a humble bone, which you are in major need of.

Just ... don't have any kids with anyone between now and then, or you'll only end up raising them to be arrogant little punks, just like you, and that would be bad.

You want to be a man, and you think you're one ... but you're not.

Not yet.

Writing them a letter is a very bad idea - your girlfriend should be the one telling them, not you. And sending a letter could look like you are controlling the relationship. What if she does test them and they do kick her out? Then what? Where is she going to live and how is she going to support herself? You don't stand to lose your home and your parents, so you must not push her into making a decision - that decision has to come from your girlfriend.