i been married since i was 18 years old i know 27 years old?

Yup he blames you because he got caught. You're a big time idiot if you still love this guy and you are still planning to stay with him. He's a pedophile and you'll expose your children to the danger of being abused.

You were a young bride and the life the two of you made is all you have known in your adult life. I do see your dilemma and longing. And the desire to have this jail term be the price he pays and upon his release your desire to have it been paid in full.

But it's not like that. With his actions towards your younger sister, he has dishonored you, your family, the family the two of you made together, his children, himself and the community you have made in such a manner that there is no way to pay it back in full. The hands of time can not be turned back. Your forgiving heart can not make it untrue.

When he decided to molest and rape your sister... he'd already stopped loving you. Perhaps he still desired you and the home and the family and thought his monsters in check... but he'd stopped loving you. As torn as he may have been to be discovered... going into your little sister's body loudly declared that you were not loved enough to prevent him for seeking his own desires. He **** in his bed, dear. He **** in yours. And he made that choice.

He knows who he is. He knows what he's done. And he knows what he's seen and done in prison as well. If he's not hugging you and telling you he loves you... why are you continuing to think he's doing this for your own benefit? It's already been made clear that he past stopped caring for what would be to your benefit. Molesting your sister was not an action he took for your benefit.

Whether he's interested in coming back into the family and pretending that it what he wants in life or not... it is a huge challenge to attempt to undertake. What sort of elaborate story have you already concocted to explain his absence to your children? Do they know their daddy is in jail for raping their aunt? Or have you told them something else? If you have told them something else... is everyone on board with that? Are your neighbors and your friends and your family all willing to pretend that your husband is a man of honor who puts his children and wife first in his life and perpetuate that story ... for... why?

If your children know the truth... are you teaching them that their daddy's behavior was okay? That it's the state's fault or your sister's fault or the court's fault but that daddy is okay and what daddy says and does is okay? Have you thought about how horrible it is to teach your children that? Have you thought about how they are going to react to YOU when they learn the truth? How are they going to feel about a mother who welcomes back a husband that is a proven rapist or child molester back into a home with minors in it? Will the state even allow that to happen? If he's guilty, and if he's in prison it's been decided that he was, it is unlikely that the law will allow him to live in a home with minors in it ever again.

I am very sorry for your situation. It's likely your husband won't be coming home. Not as long as there are children in it. Please look to find another path for your life and the life of your children. You are much more grown up now than you were when you were 18. You CAN carve out a new and different life. Please do that.

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I just read your edit. Does this mean they are releasing him immediately? Or was there other evidence that requires them to continue to hold him? If none of these accusations are true in any way... then only you and your husband together can figure out what comes next. Good luck.

IMO I would not care what he thinks. I can't believe you are standing by him when he did something to your sister. If I were you I would be serving him with divorce papers while he is in jail. Good luck

what grade are u in now