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rjhfocus77
Lv 6
rjhfocus77 asked in HealthOther - Health & Beauty · 7 years ago

I am looking for answers, where do I go from here?

I have aspergers and I don't socialize a lot. I have got anxieties, which make the aspergers a lot worse. The anxieties stem from fear, fear of not having any friends, feeling alone, having nobody, fear due to lack of hope and various other frustrations such as failing exams, being unemployed. I was taking Sertraline for my anxieties, however due to repeated panic attacks over the last five or six months, as in one or two big panic attacks, every month or so. I have had to stop taking Anti Depressants, because of worsened anxieties, feelings and negativity. I have had a few tests done on my heart, because the doctors think I have a whole in my heart or some kind of abnormality.

I don't know how to control this, even if I am happy, I will suddenly get a fluttering sensation in my chest. Ill explain what's causing it. We had new Neighbours move in about five months ago and they've been doing building and maintenance work on the house. The Neighbours will work unacceptable hours. Some mornings they work from at least 6 in the morning and sometimes at night, they work as late as 11 and I have had to stay up until they've finished work, because they've been too noisy. They started work on the house back in April and to date it's still being worked on. It's mostly this that has caused all of the stress. When the Neighbours start doing any kind of work, I will get annoyed almost within seconds of it starting, even If I am doing things, I will still sweat and have a heart flutter.

Update:

I live with my parents and my parents have already had words with the Neighbours. The thing is! They come Birmingham which is five hours drive from the house they've recently bought. They only come up on weekends and that's when the work is done. Sometimes they arrive Friday or Saturday evening and sometimes they don't work until Sunday. I have been in the house with my parent's and I understand what they've been doing. Their house hasn't had any work done to it for about 30 years.

Update 2:

Their house is joined to ours. When my parent's have had words with them, they've asked if they can work more convenient hours and if they can work quietly, most of my parent's requests have been ignored though. Because they've still continued to work at unacceptable and inconvenient hours. My parent's have actually said were going to sell our house and move, if this continues. None of us like the Neighbours and were fed up of the stress.

Update 3:

I posted this question because I don't want to relocate, but If my parent's say we have too, then I have to. I am unemployed and If my parent's move, I will have to go with them, else Ill end up in care or homeless. I have tried doing as much as possible during the day, which includes watching TV, listening to music, playing PS4, going out, watching film

Update 4:

My anxieties tend to kick in, even when I am not thinking or talking about something that bothers me. I even have to ignore my own feelings sometimes, because it's silly. I guess when I get very angry, that's what causes the anxieties. It happens when I think horrible thinks as well.

Update 5:

There's more to it than growing up. I've had sensory issues all of my life, which the NHS (National Health Service and NAS National Autistic Society) knows about. Both NAS and NHS, have said the problem is the Neighbours, because it's them causing it. Besides I've had Pscychology with this. I've already been tested as having major sensory overload problems. I don't like very loud noises, which is why I have to wear Noise cancellation headphones.

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  • rjhfocus77
    Lv 6
    7 years ago

    does anybody else get feelings like this, because I have never been this emotional in my life. I have never needed to take medications for emotions either. Even If I am watching TV or listening to music, I will suddenly have a panic attack from no where. Although I have been feeling very frustrated for the last four months, due to the Neighbours banging at unacceptable hours, when their doing jobs such as taking the ceilings down, re plastering the floor, fitting a new kitchen, fitting a new garage, putting up new furniture, fitting new wood flooring, knocking down walls and using power tools for various jobs.

    Source(s): You have to know this kind of situation, to understand what my situation is like 1. you're falling out with loved ones, because you're being woken up at unacceptable hours 2. You go to the Doctors, because nobody else will listen to you 3. You're loved ones don't want to talk to you, because their tired, stressed, don't have the energy. 4. You have to go out a lot on your own, because there is too much stress at home. 5. You have to spend the week at friends or families house
  • Julied
    7 years ago

    I also have Asperger's. I would suggest that you start by talking to your neighbors. Obviously, you are going to have to tolerate them finishing work on the house, but there is nothing wrong with asking them to limit noisy activities to certain hours.

    I often plan out what I am going to say ahead of time so that I say things in a way that are not accusatory or offensive to the other party. For example you could say. "Hello, my name is... I live down the street. I have a medical condition and it makes me sensitive to a lot of noise. I go to bed at 10:00 every night and need a quiet environment. I realize that you probably work during the day, but it would really help me out if the jobs on your house that require making noise were completed before then."

    If you are comfortable doing it, you could even tell them that you have Asperger's and explain your sensory issues.

  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    Dude grow up your the one with the problem not the neighbors! They have every right to work on their house at any time they want get over it! Your take pills for depression and anxiety obviously your the on with the problem! Going crazy over a bit of noise! I have aspergers too and I dont go crazy over small stuff like that! Stop using your aspergers as an excuse for being so intolerant!

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