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Girl issues!!! Girls answer 10pts!!?
Okay so this is quite confusing
Basically one of my close friends I've known for 9 years is now dating a girl I really like, she also really likes him but is quite paranoid about his ex that he had previously been chasing for about 6 months, and before I liked this girl I was her agony aunt showing her the negatives that she couldn't see
Anyway meanwhile they've been dating for 2 weeks or so now and they spend so much time together personally I'd be sick of him, and tonnes of other people have said I'm a much better match than he will ever be,
Now the other day she found out I'd like to get out of the friends zone by word of mouth and even after that I'm still her best friend, my friend she's dating now doesn't even want to hear about me, but she's putting me first and not having any of his **** because I'm still her best friend, so she knows I like her...a lot
Continuing from this I spent the day round hers the other day and we were play fighting as usual as we do, but this time later on in the day she started cuddling me and holding my hand, and she's definately not the type of girl to mess people around she'd hate herself,
I'm seeing her tomorrow, I'm just a bit confused, if anyone's able to make sense of what's happening please tell Me? Also she's still paranoid about his ex a bit,
Cheers guys and gals!!
2 Answers
- 7 years agoFavourite answer
You are now her 'comfort zone. Either that or she is swaying because of the pros and cons of her boyfriend. Girls usually like to have a 'safe house' be it with other girls or best boy friends. The good thing is that she'll tell you all about her problems and what she is thinking. The problem is that you can never know whether she likes you for being a friend or she likes you as in boyfriend material, or whether she is considering to try it out with you..
What you can do is that you can ask her in all honesty what she thinks of you. But here comes the complications. It can either make your relationship (whatever it is) be smoother or in a crisis. It can backfire but it can also bring you great reward as to know what she really thinks of you. It would be a great way to know her thoughts, if you are ready with the consequences. But if you are not sure about asking her, things are going to stay the same and you wouldn't know her real feelings.
I wish you all the luck with her.
- 7 years ago
You clearly do like this girl, enough to resent your best friend inside a little. Is the person really your best friend? All you have done is list negatives about them to fit why you should be with her and they shouldn't. You dont want to loose a best friend over a girl. Thats if they really are your best friend. The ex being an issue is with every relationship its always baggage but you deal with it. Its annoying but thats for the person to sort out by creating boundaries.
When you see this girl next, ask her. Ask her what her intentions are by being physically closer yet still being with your best friend. It's fine to do this because if shes playing you both just because shes confused you will get that from the way she answers. If she says its nothing then say that it's not nothing to you. If she says she likes you too then you need to tell her that she needs to leave your friend and clarify how she feels about your friend. Then BEFORE ANYTHING ELSE speak with your friend.
