I told my parents I had an abortion. Their reaction is making me feel horrible. Pls help?

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I'm 21 years old & I decided it was time I let my parents know that I had an abortion about a few months ago. I decided to be open & honest, so I told them. My dad didn't say a word, he just got up & walked off (he hasn't spoken to me in 3 days). My mom on the other hand told me she's just very disappointed I made a poor decision (my parents love kids & are against abortions). She said she's happy I'm alright but very disappointed & she's angry that I made a selfish decision to get rid of it. I explained to her that I made a mistake & got scared because I wasn't ready for a baby & I don't make enough money to keep one so I thought of what was best. She gave me a hug afterwards...but since then they both haven't been speaking to me. It feels tension around the house & they are not speaking to me. I just feel like I destroyed their image of me being the perfect daughter & I feel sad about it. Idk what to do to make this right?

angela · Accepted Answer

I'd just give it time. I've never been in your shoes but it seems like your parents really love you, it's just a lot to take in. Becoming a grandparent is a big deal & they're probably reflecting on what could have been. give them some space & they'll come around :)

hysteria · Answer

They need time to digest the thing.

? · Answer

Act your normal self & give them time to get over the shock and hurt. As a parent, I think they are more disappointed of you not coming to them before aborting & that you were careless and got pregnant.

Anonymous · Answer

If you had an early term abortion, there is simply nothing wrong with that. Souls enter through The pineal gland section of the brain. Early term, that has not developed yet. This is why late term is wrong. You can do your own research on this.
I'll tell you a big secret. I got pregnant at 15, carried and adopted. This devastated my entire life. Grown, her entire life is devastated. We met and it did not bring peace, only more pain for both of us. Adoption is ugly, unnatural and just incredible suffering. 
Can't help you out with your parents but, I hope they can forgive you.
After that pregnancy of mine, I never, ever got pregnant again. When you are careful enough, accidents don't happen. Learn the first time and forgive yourself.

熊冰冰 · Answer

You don't.  You haven't done anything wrong that you need to put right. Your parents need to get over it.

I told my parents I had an abortion. Their reaction is making me feel horrible. Pls help?

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