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Young men on a night out - what is this about?
In my youth, I was once standing at the bar in a night club when someone I had met recently came in and said "hello" and a few words more in passing. He came in with a group of young men.
When I later approached him for a conversation one of the other men butted in and told me aggressively that he was "with them", I was not "with them", and so I should not attempt to talk to him. I later tried to ask him in passing what this was about, but before either of us could speak a word Mr AlphaMale was on the spot reiterating his message about me not being "with them".
I never understood what this was about - I never met the man again to ask him about it.
I am asking now because I heard of another similar case recenty where someone was beaten up for trying to continue a conversation in similar circumstances. What is this about?
To clarify - I am certain this has nothing to do with college hazing, but it may be part of initiation into a group. The recent incident happened in Ireland, and I am aware of it because it was described in court evidence - as I said, someone was beaten up. It was similar in nature to what happened to me, four hundred miles away and about 35 years earlier.
I believe this is a "group behaviour" technique which is at the root of an unrelated social problem, and I want to understand it.
2 Answers
- Anonymous4 years ago
Sounds like the one guy was just a big jerk.
- Vanilla VirtueLv 44 years ago
Were they gay and in a relationship? No straight men I know will try to hush up other men talking. That was rude and I have no idea why someone would butt in on a conversation unless they were hazing the guy in a fraternity or something. Which that could be a far out assumption if y'all weren't on a college campus. You will just have to ask the guy you were trying to have a conversation with what that was all about.
