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Just found out the man i'm in love with has 2 kids and he didn't tell me. Should i stay?
So me and this guy have been dating and we fell in love. I knew he had 1 daughter since the beginning & it kinda bothered me he had a kid with someone already but he treats me right so I overlooked it & got over it. Well today I found out barely that he has ANOTHER daughter. When I asked him about it he said "I never said anything because I thought u already knew." If I knew this man had 2 kids already by different women, I would've never approached him to get to know him. I've never liked the idea of being with someone who has kids. But now I feel stuck because I already love him & now I feel like I can't leave. It really bothers me he has 2 kids but this man does everything right, he takes care of me, & loves me in such a way I didn't think I could be loved. Should I not let the fact that he has 2 kids bother me? Why or why not? I need help :/
4 Answers
- 4 years agoFavourite answer
Girl I am in the same boat. Except mine only has 1 kid and I knew about it. Thing is I caught feelings early and when he said he had a kid I didnt want to just end it. I wish I had sometimes. He has so much baby mamma drama it kills me. His baby mama hates on me calls me names and tries to use their kid to control him. Basically she thinks if she can't have him nobody can so she makes my life hell and his. I feel like as much as we dont want to admit it we dont want this kind of a relationship. I am so in love with my bf and it makes me so sad to think of not being with him but at the same time I'm getting hurt being with him. We dont get all the attention which is understandable but hard to accept. Sometimes you gotta go with your gut and do what you dont want to do. I still don't know if I'll stay with mine its such a hard decision to make. Best of luck I hope you find peace with whatever you choose <3
- JerryLv 64 years ago
No you shouldn't. Love is about trust and openness...he has not been either with you. It's one thing to "lie" about an experience; it's a totally different world to lie about children.
- Suzy Suzee SueLv 64 years ago
I was in your situation. It is suprisingly not that uncommon considering the fact that women just spread their damn legs to who ever sometimes and not give a **** about being in a committed devoted relationship! What happend to me was the we fought about it so much that he ended up injuring me (I had bloody knees and legs as a result - yes it was that bad). I am not seperated from him now but well this is where you have to ask if it is worth it to stay. One thing you have to remember is that you cannot change his past. Heck you cannot even change yours! However, you have to access the future. If you think there is going to be baby mama trouble, then I would bail. If not and you think you can live with the fact that he has kids, then well that is on you, but the mere fact that you are asking this question, tells me that you aren't completely happy with him and the situation.
