How to be what I can be?

Contemplate and understand how your true self receives, reflects, and reprises the "99 Names": https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Names_of_God_in_Isla...

and apply your faith-based childlike qualities to the more secular yet in that wise accurate schema of Abraham Maslow: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow's_hierarchy_o...

Understand the psychology of marriage as explained by Shaunti Feldhahn ("For Couples Only"), as it teaches what many Muslims (and Muslimas) at least formally know--that the wife's genuine respect for her husband is key; also, the care of the wife by the husband, which primarily focuses upon genuine love of the husband for the wife, is also explained, helpful for those who might not know this so well).

As for raising children, Dr. James Dobson's psychology is excellent: "Bringing up Boys" and "Bringing up Girls," especially relevant in a pluralist and often-secular society.

Simple put. Do only what you like and being honest.

Doing only what you like and being honest will repel people from you while at the same time attract people who will appreciate you. Better to start now rather that later, later you start the more pain it will be. Like ripping off a bandaid. Feels good at the end but smarts until you’re done ripping it off

Be all that you can be. Join the army.

There is only ONE way - and that is to try things to discover what you can do and where your talents lie. I consider all these folks that claim to be able to determine what your "dream job" should be as either utterly stupid or charlatans.

You live your life honestly with moral and justice. You do your duty perfectly. Everything will happen automatically and perfectly. You don't think someone else for everything you do. If you do you will become nothing.

Walking the path of harmonization .

1) Awareness of self

2) Acceptance of self

3) Change of self occurs

Pray for God's will and direction in your life. Look for answers in the Bible. Start with the New Testament; Gospel of John and Romans first.