my sister’s boyfriend revealed he checks me out?

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My sister’s boyfriend lives with our family & he’s been staying here for like 2 months. He just revealed the other day to me through text message that he sometimes checks me out while i’m walking around the house. I told my parents about this & they don’t think it’s a good idea to tell my sister because they already argue all the time & they have a lot of trust issues. My parents just told me “he’s a guy. guys look. just try not to wear anything revealing around the house.” Like i don’t think that’s right. how is this my fault? now i don’t feel comfortable in my own house. & i don’t know what the best thing to do is. Because if i tell my sister about it, & they breakup, my parents told her boyfriend that if they ever breakup, it doesn’t mean he has to move out, because he is homeless at the moment. My parents took him in because he had no where to go. So i feel like if i speak up, he’s still gonna keep living here. so i feel stuck. WHATS THE BEST OPTION TO DO TO HANDLE THIS??

Anonymous · Answer

the best way to handle it is tell your sister, have her break up with the creep, and have your parents kick that bum out of your house.

Robert · Answer

Show your sister the text.   Problem solved.   Let her throw him out.

seedy history · Answer

Show your sister the txts. Do it today. Your parents are pimping out their daughter so that this guy has a bed to sleep on? I get that's not the real situation but it is exactly what their choice on this matter suggests! Nah. Your sister is the one who gets to decide whether this guy is in her bed or out the door. That is HER decision to make. And, also, it sounds like you might start wearing more clothes around the house. I bet your Dad would appreciate that too.

Linda · Answer

Why are you texting your sister's boyfriend? Did he ask you to text him or something along that line? That's wrong and improper of you because it sends signals to him that you are more than just friends. There is no reason on earth for you to be texting him at all. That's why he is hitting on you. You need to stop texting him period and then tell him straight up to his face to leave you alone or you are going straight to your sister and telling her. Then do so.

Anonymous · Answer

🥴 Listen to your parents.

This is why most cultures separate boys from girls after a certain age. You grow up, you fill out, things happen.

But your parents are correct in their advice.

So... my advice is:

1. Block his phone number in your phone.
2. Avoid being in the same room with him like he's the plague. DO NOT engage in speaking to him.

my sister’s boyfriend revealed he checks me out?

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