Yahoo Answers is shutting down on 4 May 2021 (Eastern Time) and the Yahoo Answers website is now in read-only mode. There will be no changes to other Yahoo properties or services, or your Yahoo account. You can find more information about the Yahoo Answers shutdown and how to download your data on this help page.

? asked in Family & RelationshipsFamily · 2 months ago

Are my parents trying to tell me to back off?

I’ll call my dad every now again, maybe once or twice a month to say hello.

I ask my dad about the stock market, and what to invest in (simple, small talk). He’s been around longer so he has advice-compounding etc. (Or so I think).

I told him I want to be able to ensure a great financial future for myself, because no one else will do that for me. It’s my life and I need to take care of myself. 

He then mentioned me bouncing ideas off of others for ideas and such and getting a couple friends to talk to. 

I’m not socially inept and I’m not afraid to talk to people (hello?? Yahoo answers!!).

I was a little offended because it kinda came off like he doesn’t really like hearing from me. I’m his kid. I think he might be jealous. 

Do you think he needs space?

7 Answers

Relevance
  • 2 months ago

    I think you are reading into his reply too much.  In my opinion, he was steering you towards a more knowledgeable person.  Thats all.  He does not want to steer you wrong and then him get blamed for any chance that your investment goes sour.  Not a bad idea to be honest.  I mean if it did go wrong.. he would feel badly.

  • Anonymous
    2 months ago

    "I’m not socially inept and I’m not afraid to talk to people (hello?? Yahoo answers!!)".

    You said a couple things here that are kind of odd, esp the above.  Using YA doesn't prove you aren't socially inept!  In fact, the biggest cause of social anxiety is using social media or sites like this.  I'm just curious why this topic even cropped up. 

    I'm also puzzled why you'd think he's jealous.  Of whom?  

    It could be something as simple as him not wanting to be too involved in your financial decisions, because he'd feel responsible if you take his advice and it goes south.   Like you say, he has more experience in this area, but we are living in very strange times right now.  If you have enough money to be investing, have you considered talking to an account manager for some of the larger investing firms?  There's a ton out there, like Wells Fargo or Morgan Stanley, etc.  

    I realize your issue isn't about investing but rather your dad.  Unless you've seen other things that puzzle you, I'd guess  this is one issue where he doesn't want to be too involved.  If you wanted his advice about cars or something it's very possible he'd act more like Dad.  Dads generally like it when they feel needed by their adult kids.  

  • ?
    Lv 5
    2 months ago

    Hello concerned one your dad is the grown and father more space? More patience more natural affection more time is what he needs to be practicing toward his child. You are not a bother you are a blessing hopefully he recognizes this and have a change of heart. Try to keep a calm heart and your peace and pray for strength to endure and courage to keep moving forward.

  • 2 months ago

    He wants to hear about your life, who you are dating, how work is.  If you want stock advice get a stock advisor, that is their job.  

  • 2 months ago

    "Small talk" is not STOCK MARKET SHlT!

  • 2 months ago

    I think he wants you to get more in-depth advice and information from a variety of sources so that your success or lack of it isn't on his shoulders. He's learned from HIS mistakes... likely thinks you need to do that same for yourself. In other words, he doesn't want to be in charge of your success... and he's right to take that stance. Maybe you could talk with him about the lawn or where'd he like to go for lunch. 

    If you want to be in charge of your own fiscal success then quit demanding that your Dad do it for you or be offended if he doesn't want to. Your position is totally human but not particularly logical. 

  • 2 months ago

    what you were doing is not called small talk, small talk is asking if he and your mum are keeping well, about how you are getting on at work, who your latest boyfriend is - that kind of thing, you are boring the poor man to death talking about the stock market

Still have questions? Get answers by asking now.