Should I give a job tip to a woman who ghosted me?

Question

I once asked out a woman who just became pregnant and was hardly looking for a job. She accepted my offer to get coffee but after a couple rounds of texts she fell off.

I thought she might benefit from a good job tip as I just got hired, should I give it?

Foofa · Answer

You're under no obligation to do so. But this is one reason women have a harder time in the working world. They can't even book a networking lunch without a guy thinking they're looking for sex (and then being angry when he finds out all they want is the same chance in the labor market that men have).

Pearl · Answer

thats up to you

? · Answer

I think I would tell her to go fvck yourself.

Anonymous · Answer

Why would you?  Her full time job is finding a "suitable" husband.

? · Answer

Be careful, she might MeToo you.

If you do hire her, don't talk to her without someone else in the room or your recording it. FACT

Alex · Answer

So she's not that interested in you. It happens. Accept it and move on to someone who is more likely to be a partner to you.

Once you can accept that and get beyond the "She ghosted me? <GASP><MELODRAMA><AGNST>" mentality, I think you will see that the correct answer is "She's a human being in a rough situation in a rough job market and this can help her out quite a bit."

Should I give a job tip to a woman who ghosted me?

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