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Charlotte
Charlotte asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 2 months ago

Should I sell my necklace what my ex boyfriend got me on my 21st birthday or keep it ?

I was 19 years old when I first met my ex who was 25 years old at the time, both me and him have got autism(my one is a spectrum and his is mild) and everything went well as friends. I didn't speak to for almost a month because I was planning just to go out for lunch only just me and him (still friends at the time) instead he decided to go behind my back to invite his three guy mates ( they were 25 at the time) and a girl mate (in her early 20s), he text me saying that his girl mate cant comes, his other friend cant comes, this friend is coming and this other friend might come. I was furious and I can remember I was wondering that you should ask me first its ok for you to invite your friends and one of my boy mates (I've got two boy mates still keep in touch from this day)was worried about me because he said to me that is selfish and rude.  Then I didn't speak to him for almost a month and then a month later he text me saying hey and then I said to him that "next time, make sure you ask me first before you decide to invite your friends because I dont like people invite their friends if it's ok with me" and he said to me "i dont like that as well and I always ask if its ok" then I brushed it off (stupid me)  

Months later he said to me he really likes me and then after my 20th birthday, we went out for a date and then we became official very quickly.

Update:

ur relationship was going well until 9 months later, he doesn't make an effort to text me so I always text him first (eg texted on monday and then 2 days later havent heard from him and he hasnt text me to see how my day was), we see each other mainly every two weeks because of his friends and he wants to have a lie-in on the Sunday. 

Update 2:

On my 21st birthday he didn’t see me, he was supposed to be working but instead he hangs around with his friends (btw his friends are bad influence because one of them were on hilter’s side, one of them were on drugs and two of them use him for money and one of them beat his girlfriend up and my ex found it funny, it is not funny for a guy to beat a girl up and a lot of his friends have got learning disabilities and most of them don’t work and my ex does work, 

Update 3:

he was very vulnerable and naive for his friends to ask him for money and made him pay for everything) and he came out with me and my family on the following day and him and his family brought a beautiful necklace from pandora and a bottle of prosecco. My family has been loyal to him and I have always been loyal and grateful to his family. He has never spoken to and makes eye contact with my two younger sisters (at the time 8 and 15)

Update 4:

Almost last year ago, he dumped me for unknown real reasons and he said he wanted to be single and I was crying really badly. He closed the door right after I left. On that night I couldn’t go to sleep. 

Update 5:

He didn’t listen to me throughout our relationship when I kept telling him 1000 times that I am gluten free and dairy free, he says ok and then when he gave me a ready meal or chocolates I am not stupid to read the ingredients and then I found it it has got dairy and gluten and he said oh I forgot, I didnt know that 

Update 6:

(as I did keep telling from the beginning when we met that I am gluten free and dairy free… Now I'm just dairy free). I feel like I am an idiot. 

I have got been told that “ you are a still young and you still have got your whole life”

I am 22 years old, I dont know If I should sell it, give it to someone who I know as a birthday present or keep it.

Update 7:

I am scared of guys whenever I go into another relationship, also I have got ASD (I know it doesnt matter who I am, it is about good personality) and I am scared about how the guys are going to treat me. 

Update 8:

I dont know if I should sell the necklace or not and what do you guys think or advisements? 

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  • ?
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    You have made a long rant.  If the necklace reminds you of any of the GOOD times you had together then you should keep it.  Boyfriends/girlfriends come and go.  They are not lifetime commitments. They usually end badly.  But there are plenty of good times before they end.

  • Anonymous
    2 months ago

    It doesn't sound like you had much of a relationship with this guy, and it really didn't last long.  He was also somewhat immature for his age and I don't think he ever wanted anything serious.  His friends were more important to him.  So yes, sell the necklace. It doesn't have any special meaning to you and it's a good way for you to finally move on from him.

  • Anonymous
    2 months ago

    As the necklace was a gift it's now in your ownership. So you may do as you wish with it.

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