My son who turns 5 next year and will go to kindergarten, still wears diapers. How can I make him potty trained?

Yikes.

Time to seek a professional to instruct you on how to be a better parent

my son uses dipers for over nights and hes well in his 30s. during the day he just holds his shlts in so that they dont escape into his pants. he always wears the same ones and a grey shirt. now in my sons case he got autism bad the drs have said its the worst case they have seen but when we was trying to house break him it took a lot of work. and a LOT of hitting. i cant even count the number of times my son needed to get new dentures. but thats the point of parenting - teaching them and hitting them when they dont understand.

i find when the kid is fear ful he will really do his best not to shlt on your floors or his pants. ssome times i catch him doing it outside (learned from our dog modoblak) but when i get my belt off and run after him he pinches the loaf and takes off and for a fat kid he goes real dam fast (runs on all fors like a leperd)

and by the way? my son is a printer engneer and so dont think using dipers can leave u behind. in some parts of the world its very natural. thanks and good luck

Try making potty fun, by keening towards his interests! Maybe get him a potty seat with his favorite characters on them! That worked with my brother, but it's obviously going to be different with everyone. Good luck!

No, they probably won't and why should they?, it's your fault that you failed in properly potty-training him. Get a small toilet seat for him and just reassure him he will not fall. Simple. 

Get him a smaller seat that can be placed on the regular toilet, or a child sized potty and take away the diapers. Keeping him in diapers is only prolonging the issue. Give him a heads-up on Friday, that on Monday all of his diapers will be going to help the babies, and that now that he is a big boy he won't need them anymore. Make sure he sees all the diapers leave the house, show him some pull ups for night time and some brand new 'big boy' undies for daytime (even better if you take him to the store and let him pick his own out) and let him know that from Monday on he needs to go like big boys do. Mark the days off on a calander so that he has a visual representation of when this will start. Don't beg with him, don't plead with him, don't bribe him, as all those things give him power over the situation. Just very matter-of-factly show him where he is going to be doing his business from now on, and starting Monday morning, let the potty training begin. He is going to fight it, if he does, don't panic, stay calm and offer him the bathroom again in a couple of minutes. Offer him a couple of books that he can only look at if he is on the potty, (maybe get a couple new ones and keep them for potty time only) but don't make the mistake of using electronics in the bathroom. He isn't there to play games, he is there to do a job. Once he does his business praise him for it and tell him he is now a big boy. If he has an accident, don't tear him down for it, as he needs to get used to the process, and shaming him will just slow things down, but also, don't be in a real rush to get him into clean dry undies. If he sees how uncomfortable it is to be wet, he will be more willing to go potty. Another good thing you could do is set up a reward chart for him. Tell him he gets a fun activity ever 5 times he uses the toilet, or maybe every 5 days he stays dry. Let him put a checkmark or add the sticker to make him feel important. Nights are going to be harder until you have this conquered. You are going to have to get in the habit of getting up and taking him to the bathroom maybe once a night until he gets the hang of this, or can hold his bladder until morning. Good luck.

Four years old is not unusual for boys.   There's nothing wrong here.

Ever been camping and used an outhouse with a deep pit and get that eerie feeling like you might fall in?    Ok...so you can relate.

Yes, you can use a potty chair, but I'm not a big fan if you can avoid it.

It often makes the kids feel more secure just to start by "sitting" on the toilet for a few seconds just to get them used to it.  They don't have to actually use it.  And they can start sitting on it with their clothes and diaper on which feels much more secure to them.

Once your child is comfortable sitting on the toilet, you can together talk about using underwear and the toilet.   Look at the calendar and pick a day.   Count down together.   On the day, he gets big-boy underwear.    Ask him every hour to go sit on the toilet.   If something happens, great.  If it doesn't, it doesn't.   And if he has an accident, he's going to feel it because he's going to be wet or poopy.    (Another reason I prefer underwear to Pull-Ups for toilet training).     When he has an accident, no harm, no foul.   But he gets to help clean it up by helping wash himself, put his dirty clothes in the laundry basket, get new clothes, etc. 

Most learn very quickly that it is easier/faster just to "go" in the toilet.

Acknowledge his fear and buy a sturdy potty seat for him to use, and steps if he needs them to reach it, so he can't fall in or off. My guess is that his fear of the fall is the one thing standing in the way of his success.

You can do all the usual stuff of toilet training--have him sit there every few hours, and/or at the usual time he poops--including a chart that awards stickers or stars for every successful use of the toilet (and ignores failures), with a small prize when he achieves a big number, like 20. Some parents have great success with a string of no-pants days spent outside and on tiled rooms indoors, but that's not necessarily possible.

School districts don't usually accommodate a kindergarten student who cannot use the toilet.

FWIW, lots and lots of kids toilet train late.He'll get there, I promise! Our older child was nearly four when it finally happened, and is now a college professor.