csa don't care how much I've given already!!!!!!!!?

My FrIend , Adopt a different stratergy.

Firstly, use the Citizens advice , they are very good in these matters, always remember dont let them make you feel impotent .

If after all deductions you are left with less than the minimum entitlement allowed by pension credit including housing benefit and council tax allowance . then you have a right to secure a just and

equitable income to sustain your new family. More importantly i would suggest that you fight on the basis that if your ex wifes new partners salary is not taken into account then likewise your new partners income should also not be taken into account. Further more. if you have the proof that you were willing to pay your ex without the involvement of the csa i would certainly make a claim to cover all the charges imposed by the csa in collecting monies you had already volunteered

Lastly , if you were under pressure to release your share of the matrimonial home in order to satisfy the csa, i would certainly stake a claim of 50% of the value of the home if she where to sell it , especially seeing as her new man would be involved in any subsequent purchase which would entail the equity of your home. All the best , dont lose any sleep over it . afteral the csa are only civil servants administering a system that perpetuates financial punishment against caring fathers.

The CSA aren't thieving if they are giving the money to YOUR children.

I understand that you can in settlement of a divorce arrange payments for children but as i understand it unless your house is worth a fortune you don't just give up your share which would be just 45% in order to forfeit any payments. Your ex wife would be entitled to keep the house until the children leave school anyway (if you didn't give up your share). And surely you didn't give her a lump sum cash, you gave her the house as she had the children?

Sounds more like you walked away from it all and didn't think about the consequences.

At the end of the day they are your children and you should want to pay for them.

Imagine how they will feel when they are older or if they are old enough now if they know you are fighting to not pay for their upbringing but are quite happy to pay for your partners children.

I think you have lost all perspective on this and need a rethink.

You knew you had children when you entered into a relationship with someone with children and so did your current partner. You cant just wipe out your own kids for the sake of hers.

If you genuinely are have a rough deal and there is a court order in place that is not being taken into consideration then though try your MP, i think you will find them helpful with the CSA. But i doubt this is the case.

Good Luck!

Yes, the CSA are an appalling bunch. My husband is being pursued for several thousand pounds. We have been told by the Citizens Advice Bureau that we shouldn't have to pay it as the CSA have miscalculated. The CSA wont listen at all and the court wants our car to sell for the debt. My family tax credits which are meant for my children and their welfare is being taken into account as part of my husband's income. What really gets to me is that his daughters mother and her new partner both work and don't really need the money. On the other side of the coin, my son's father has never paid a penny. He works on a cash only basis and signs on so he doesn't get caught - and yes I did tell on him eventually but no one listened. I get nothing for my little lad and the CSA have done nothing to get anything. I don't want thousands. A fiver a week would be fine and I don't mind if he just puts that in my sons account. I don't want the money, its just a gesture to recognise his responsibility. My husband and I have a website we go to which is a CSA help forum - cant remember the link - try google. Its full of people just like you frustrated by the injustices and being unable to fight against it. Take heart - you are not alone.

In my opinion the divorce laws have always been unfair. They say that they are only concerned with making provision for the children. In fact the CSA and the courts cause enormous damage to the children by using the Father as nothing more than a provider. This system is open to abuse by many women who divorce, remarry and profit financially. The amount spent on mental health treatment for the children and Fathers damaged by the present laws must be enormous, not to mention the large amounts of suicides caused by this dreadful situation. No, I doubt that you can do anything.

You have children, you pay the piper. The percentage isn't rocket science and in truth it's not unfair either. Sure we have to plan our future on maybe 85%, 80% or 75% of our income, but that seems amicable to me. They are my children, I have a responsibility, regardless of how difficult or otherwise my ex makes it to maintain a relationship with them. I plan my next set of responsibilities based on what I can afford financially and emotionally. Your divorce settlement is completely separate from CSA, so no, they are not interested.

There your children so you will have to pay for them until they leave education, it doesnt matter how much money she earns but they take your wages deduct money for you to live on per week (around 60.00), if you don't pay it the can and will arrest you wages, and the lump sum doesn't affect the weekly money you give her, with your current partner it doesn't matter how many children she has, their father is responsible for them. if you earn around £25thousand per year its around £80 per week you will pay but contact CSA and discuss it with them and if you are paying too much ask for a re assessment. Good luck.

Ouch buddy! That sucks. Well everything depends on what state you are in and you know that a lawyer is going to soak you. Sounds like the money might be better spent on a hit man.

Good luck

You might be able to consult with a good divorce lawyer, many will have a first consultation for free. Shop around, You might get some help there.

That's why if you have a solid career, own your own home, have a nice car/truck, and 401K - DO NOT GET MARRIED.

It’s your stuff, you earned it, don't give it up.

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