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FLmom3
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FLmom3 asked in Pregnancy & ParentingPregnancy · 1 decade ago

When to tell everyone we're expecting?

We are expecting our 4th little one in June 2009. When did you let everyone know the good news? I had a miscarriage with our 1st pregnancy, but then the next 3 were successful. I know its very early but what do most people do??? I was reluctant to tell everyone with my other 3 because of that 1 miscarriage, but now I'm wondering if I should just let it out- its HARD keeping such a wonderful secret!

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    I am just like you I can't keep a secret!! I am due end of may and I have already spilled the baby beans!! They say 12 weeks is the safe period but...there is really no safe period...whenever you are ready i would say! Good luck and happy healthy nine months!

  • 1 decade ago

    I always told everyone immediately with my first three and never understood how anyone could hold in such a great secret. And then I had a miscarriage in July of this year and I got it. When we're pregnant again, we won't tell until after the first appointment and we see a little heartbeat on our baby at the ultrasound. At least that way I don't have to go back and "untell" everyone. So many people don't know what to say after a miscarriage. It makes them uncomfortable. It makes you uncomfortable when they say the wrong thing. I'd rather just wait and be sure.

    You should do what feels right to you though. Good luck with your decision and congrats on the newest baby!

    Source(s): mom of 4, 1 in heaven
  • 1 decade ago

    I told my parents and sisters at about 5 weeks - right when we found out. I did not want to tell anyone else until I had reached 12 weeks. My family was just too excited, and had told everyone by about seven weeks. I started having a lot of problems early on, and was put on bed rest for two months beginning at seven weeks - which came as a surprise to me because I am so healthy. I really regretted telling my family so early, because they did not respect the fact that this was our secret to share. They thought that they had every right to tell everyone, despite the fact that we were so clear that it was very important to us to keep it a secret. My mom had even told my hair dresser - I was lying in bed thinking, if I do miscarry, is the whole world going to know about it? I love my family dearly, and know that it was not their intention to make us feel this way. However, my husband and I have decided that NO ONE will be finding out until 12 weeks with our next one. It is just too big of a secret to keep. The last thing you want after a miscarriage is everyone and their dog asking how the pregnancy is going...

    Source(s): 23 weeks pregnant with #1!
  • 1 decade ago

    I am due in the middle of May and I told all my close friends and family back in September. I couldn't wait! They do say the scary miscarriage stage ends at 12 weeks so it is safe to do it after that. I wanted everyone to know so that I had experienced people to go to and ask questions and confide in.

  • 1 decade ago

    I had a hard time with this one too! I told only close family until I was around 11 or 12 weeks. If you do lose the baby at least you have some people to comfort you. Good Luck!

    Source(s): 38 w 4 d...1 m/c
  • 1 decade ago

    We waited until after 3 months with both.

  • 1 decade ago

    12 weeks

  • 1 decade ago

    go ahead and share the news. heaven forbid you have another miscarriage but if it does happen then you will have your family and friends there to comfort you. congrats by the way!

  • Groovy
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    Whenever you want. I told everyone as soon as I found out.

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