39 years old and want to have a baby, husband recently became unemployed...try to get pregnant anyway?

Question

I am turning 40 in just a few months and have no biological children. We are adoptive parents to a 4 year old girl who is the love of our lives. I still want to have a natural child and I feel like this is my last chance given my age. My husband just lost his job and now I am concerned about whether to proceed with fertility treatment since we do not know how long he might be unemployed in this economy. I have a full-time job and earn a good salary but not sure how secure my job is either. I feel like this is my last chance and feel that I cannot put this off until our financial situation improves.....not sure what to do?

Update:

Current job offers $10K in infertility benefits and we have over a years worth of living expenses saved up....adding this info because some people's answers indicated that we might end up and welfare and that is pretty unlikely.

Katiesmama11 · Accepted Answer

Go for it. Life is not about paying bills, its about the love we share with our families. You seem like you are financially sound for the time being, and no one ever has a guarantee for the future, no matter what the financial climate. Try and see what happens. At 40 you do not have forever.

iceyblue1986 · Answer

Personally, I think you should go for it now because there is help out there and NOBODY knows when or if this economy will get better in any time soon. I am unemployed/laid off and we are still trying. It clearly is something that you really want and by the time finances are better, your clock could be "off". So I say try now and deal with things one at a time. I wouldn't want my dream of motherhood to never happen because of money. You know how resentful you'd be later if you put off all the happiness a child brings because of money? People have made it on far less. As long as the love is there, you can make it. If you need the system for help for a little bit do it, remember you have paid into it too as a taxpayer so why shouldn't it assist you in a time of need temporarily?

Good Luck to you both.

Anonymous · Answer

Sorry if this sounds crude...but how exactly are you going to afford a baby if you're husband just lost his job, you aren't sure about yours and we're going through a recession?  Do you plan to make the child live on welfare?  Is your husband really ok with adding ANOTHER child to the family after his job loss?

How you answer those should give you the answer to your original question.

Lisa S · Answer

If you are truly asking this, you know the cost of those treatments will be detrimental to the family you already have. Worse, if you succeed, the pressure on your husband will be intense, and painful. If he can't get another job quickly, you will have no health insurance either---and that is major.

I think it would be wise to wait, honestly.

Good luck to you all.

LOVE THE JONAS BROTHERS · Answer

Dont feel rushed. you still have time to have a child. You should make sure you and your family are financially secure now before you add another member to your family.  The Bible says don't have anxiety about anything. A baby will come in due time.


Good Luck!!!

39 years old and want to have a baby, husband recently became unemployed...try to get pregnant anyway?

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