V-Day Gift: Yes or No?

Question

I'm contemplating whether or not to have a Valentine's Day gift delivered to a very close friend of mine.

We've known each other for nearly 8 years but lost contact with her for the last two. In the beginning, we were intimate, but for the wrong reasons. Over the years, we became very close. We told each other and talked about things that we'd never tell anyone else. But, either one or both of us would be involved with someone else, so nothing ever happened.

We got back in contact a few months ago and starting hanging out more for the past couple of month, but things have changed. She now has a six month old baby girl and is single (father's a LOSER). I want to do something nice for her. I want her to feel loved and appreciated, but at the same time, I don't want her to feel overwhelmed or pressured into anything.

I was thinking about sending red roses and chocolates to her and also having a nice bouquet of flowers delivered to her mom and baby girl as well. If we were lovers; I wouldn't even be on here asking this question...So, there's my dilemma.

Sherry Kathryn · Accepted Answer

Get her something small yet nice. She definitely sounds like she deserves it.

The roses & chocolates sound like a great idea. Maybe include a nice card with something written inside. A nice bouquet of lilies to her mother would be great & a stuffed Valentine bear for her daughter would be perfect.

Good Luck <3

Sunshine · Answer

That's a difficult question.
In all honesty, I think red roses and chocolates are going a bit too far. I know that if I received those from someone who I had that kind of history with, I would feel pressured.
I think I would leave off the chocolates, and pick another kind of flower to build a bouquet from.

On the plus, I do really like the idea of sending flowers to her daughter. It comes off as an extremely sweet gesture.

Stephanie W · Answer

Aw! That's a really sweet idea. I would appreciate it. I don't think it's pressuring at all. It's a sweet gesture. To add her mom and baby in it too is even sweeter. If I was single and had a close friend I wouldn't mind getting something for valentines day. It shows you care. I say go for it!

miland · Answer

i think of a great considerate gesture that expresses ones affections/friendship is often good style. i think of this is superb. That being suggested... a single mom is going with out this style of great sort of issues, quite in those perplexing financial circumstances. the fee of plant existence is so jacked up at Valentines Day... in case you have been going to deliver plant existence to all 3 of them (your buddy, her toddler, and her mom) this is a extensive bite of substitute...in step with danger there is something extra smart that they might desire... even a cutting-edge certificates for them to flow out to dinner would be superb... For the daughter, a cutting-edge card to My wellbeing center or music & Me would be relatively superb to tutor which you care with regard to the little lady descendant too... A 6 month previous would not desire or care approximately plant existence. i'm getting which you do not desire the present to come back with responsibilities or rigidity--just to be considerate. i think of it relatively is so superb... and that i don't think of the plant existence are incorrect in any way if that's what you desire to do... i'm purely questioning in the event that they're suffering good now... this is an incredible sort of money to piss away on issues that are purely gonna die. And honestly the final element a submit partum lady needs is goodies as quickly as we are attempting to get our figures back... or maybe this is purely me. :) however the thoughtfulness element? specific! that would desire to truthfully be favorite. i'm hoping issues will artwork out for you all. :)

Anonymous · Answer

Flowers are always sweet. Yellow roses are my favorite, and they symbolize friendship. Maybe you could attach a card to the flowers that says you're just checking up on her b/c you care for her, and miss her.

Matt · Answer

Invite her over for dinner.

V-Day Gift: Yes or No?

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