What's the point in asking for help? (Mental Health)?

i know excatly how you feel my keyworker always says text or call me when you feel down but just like you say ringing them isnt going to make a difference they arnt going to just drop everything and come over so like you i think whats the point in using them. the clock off at 5 and dont give you a second thought.

i also hear what your saying about having your keyworker taken off of you for relying on her too much i too like you have bpd (have read your previous questions) and have myself in the past got too 'close' to someone that offered help reeled me in then turned round and said i got too close and she couldnt help me anymore so now i have the attitude that i will never bother them people with bpd have a bad name were not attention seeker we just need someone to care about us i wish people would see that

Its hard because when you are feeling unwell you need some help but there never seems to be the help out there you just get everytime 'ring me if you need me' and dont even get me started on the crisis team! waiting lists for therapy are so long so they just give you tablets to take which dont always help - ive been on a psychotherapy waiting list for 12 months and have been told ive still got another 6 to wait and this was with my name beng 'moved' up the list as i was in hospital twice last year on a section

so bascially as awful as it sounds you just got to try and reky on yourself to get through the hard times its awful that you have to do that but i dont think its ever going to change.

take care x

I don't think that conventional psychotherapy can make much of a difference. If someone is depressed, it means that they are on low energy level and talking about that doesn't help. Much better is to find some specialist in holotropic breathing and have a few sessions, and get the results right away! You will feel the difference after only 1h of session. When you get some energy, you will be able to talk through your problems. I wonder when will the therapists finally get it and stop torturing people with asking questions and making them answer themselves to them. If no one helps you in your country, come to Serbia and you will feel better within a day. After 5 days of energetic sessions and existential/humanistic psychotherapy where you learn how human's brain function and why are the things as they are now, you will start a completely new, happy, fulfilled life :) And I'm talking from personal experience.

I sympathise.. I was referred to a social worker because I look after my mum, and I hate it.. the social worker promised me all sorts of things.. all of which I am still waiting for.. sounds really cynical, but I;ve been through the system, and I know I;m right to be.. When you are feeling rotten like you do, you don;t need people making it obvious that you are taking up too much of their time.. and yes, your right, they get off the phone and get on with their lives, and that just makes you feel even more isolated.. I find that most mental health proffessionals are just concentrating on making sure you don;t top yourself, or the more straight forward cases of definate mental illness like schizophrenia.. you need a friend who knows and understands what you are going through..probably a fellow sufferer.. contact Mind, and ask about clubs and support groups, where you can meet fellow sufferers.. Professional workers are all very well and good, but you honestly have to have experienced this misery to know what its all about..

Totally get it, been doing that recently but turned to drink to cope, which obviously makes things worse, till i was close to self harm, then i talked to my boyfriend, it was a relief and i felt better (even though he dont understand me at all!!)

usually though i email samaritans, they dont reply straight away but sometimes the act of writing how i feel down is theraputic for me.

I guess you have to try find what works for you. I know yahoo answers sometimes is what gets me through a dark moment.

I also have no family or friend support and see my physc once every 2 months and i dont have a care worker. so its a bit shite really.

I was thinking about it the other day, think mental health teams should have forums so local people who need support can help each other.

I went to a therapist once with the same outlook. I left with a completely different one. Give the counselor a try, you may be surprised how they might help. If you're not happy with a current counselor, try a new one. Also understand that the point of the counseling is to get you on your own two feet. You shouldn't have to rely on them, but instead take their advice as tools to use. You'll be fine, give them a chance.

PS. I later switched to a therapist (different from a counselor) and found him to be ten times more helpful).

what my mental health unit has set up is care plans - so no matter when I call, whoever I speak to if not my caseworker can bring up my file on computer & go through things that usually help me & guide me in that way - so most of the time it is beneficial ringing. It does depend on how often you use it though - they don't like you to become too dependent on your workers as that is not healthy either & you can develop depend relationships on them.

Perhaps talk to your counsellor about that - if she wants more information on how it works it is the phone coaching aspect of DBT that my whole mental health unit is actually applying to everyone not just those who like myself are doing DBT

If you're looking for a person who is going to actually care about you personally, you're going to have to rely on friends or family. I can't think of a reason why these strangers and doctors you're talking to can really be there to help you when you need them. Can I suggest getting a dog? I know they won't understand what's going on in your head, but they're there for you, god dammit, and that really makes me happy. lol

im in the same boat you are except i havent told anyone or asked for help. are you lonely? try changing your life in a positive way. the only thing that works for me anymore is driving toward making my life what i want it to be. better yourself it helps a lot. good luck

i'm sorry to hear thats how you feel... i'm going through and went through some hard times.. i had this teacher i went to and she was very patient spent half her time with me and very understanding gave great advice and was a great help.. it took me awhile to open up to her to tell her things but once i did i felt better... but then i did something stupid and i cant talk to her anymore and once again i feel like you do alone... i went to her because i felt i could trust her.. but now i cant and that really sucks.. for you however.. you need someone like like my teacher to go to.... someone you can trust who you can talk to face to face and on a daily basis...