Is this bullying? (at work)?

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This guy at work whom I fooled around with sometime back, well we had fallen out as friends but were being civil at work, anyway his behaviour has been somewhat confusing to me.Today at work I was pushing the baskets along the floor (so I was bent over as I pushed them) and I pulled a silly face as I went past his till. After I'd pushed them he just was smiling and said "Amazing person" I was a little confused so I said "huh?" but he didn't say anything else.
I have seen him staring at me quite intensely,he doesnt look away when I notice him.
Sometims he vey fli ith me (he is a flirty person in general) and will find excuses to touch me, where as other times he wont pay much attention to me at all and flirts with this new girl (shes actually engaged)
He seemed to be ligering near me when I was on the phone the other day.

There was a few other weird things he has done/said also.
-walked past me once and made some weird breathing noise/whispered something.
-blocked my way so I had to squeeze past/delibrately pushed into me
-pretended to throw things at me
-very lightly punched me on the bare area of my back and my cheek
-when I was leaving once another staff member mentioned he hadn noticed me during the shift, and this guy said to him "Are you blind?"
-said he only wanted to see what wasinmy bag during bag check and didnt care about checking the bags
- asked me how my holiday was i hadnt told him id been on
- when he walked past me and put his hands up and said my name,i smiled and walked past, then he pulled a sad face and said "awww no high five"
-Came over to my till to show me stupid things like a penny, a peice of rubbish ,:/
- Showed me this thing I'd been looking for 5 mins ago, and when I told him I no longer needed it he said "awww I feel so useless"
-Showed up at work a few times when he wasnt working, once came over to tell me he liked my work badge 
-Said that he should be allowed to refuse to serve certain people when he was serving me, and said "people like you"

Anonymous · Answer

He is playing and flirting with you and you are encouraging him without realizing it. That think you did when pushing the baskets.

Betty M · Answer

..Hi Lisa, No this is not bullying, it is flirtatious and maybe a tad bit of manipulating or game playing going on as well..However, this is really not about him but how you feel and handle your self while around him or even with his presence somewhere close by..You also continue to carry on with these games he/you are playing, and which you could have put an end to long ago..Is it possible that maybe you are somewhat flattered by all of this, his so called advances, or his little digs when around you, because you have also noticed every little thing he does as well..Is it possible that you  do like him more than even you realize or want to admit?..If you really want this all to stop Lisa, then only you can stop it..You can make it clear to him how you really feel about him, or take this issue up with your manager, and it will get stopped quite fast...Take care, and all the best for a great 2011...

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think it would be considered bullying, but it could be harassment. Particularly when he is touching you without your permission and making comments about your looks. Set some boundaries with this guy- no touching, keep conversation about work only- and see what happens. If it doesn't help, you may need to talk to your boss, especially if you are feeling uncomfortable or unsafe.

? · Answer

No it is not bullying. He is trying to get lucky again, And with the new girl too. Just watch him when she's around he'll try with her. and when she's gone he's gonna be going for you. He's a player, that's all.

Is this bullying? (at work)?

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