Vela

I got a missed call the other day from a girl I hooked up with two months ago. (it wasn't a drunken random meeting btw) anyway, neither of us contacted the other after sex, and I noticed about a week later she had removed me from facebook, although she still has me on skype.

Anyway I replied to the missed call saying "hey babes i missed your call i was asleep sorry :( , you all good?" she texted back and explained she called by accident and that her phone probably hit something in her bag. So I feel a bit stupid, do you think my text back was a bit needy?

Ok so I hooked up with this girl I'd been chatting to for a bit, we had met irl though as I work in a bar.

I kept asking her to mine she was busy a lot, but during easter she told me she had spare time, so I told her to come to my bar/club and she could stay over after.

So she stayed over and we had sex. In the morning we hugged and chatted and I walked her to the tram stop.

I didn't contact her after but she didn't contact me, it had been about a week since we had sex when I noticed she had removed me off facebook...

How would you feel about this if you were in my position? The girl is still on my skype but we never chat.

Was I too fast to judge this guy?

I slept with this guy over a week ago and didn't hear from him, was I right to remove all forms of contact?

I haven't heard from this guy in over a week since I slept with him, however I haven't made any attempts to contact him either.

I met him in January, but I didn't hang out with him properly till last week, when we hooked up, the next day he was nice and all, hugged me all day walked me to the bus stop, and said to bring some dvds over for next time. know this wasn't heading for a relationship I dint even have time, but it would be nice to keep him as a friend even.

He was on skype sometimes so I guess he wasn't totally avoiding me, However I removed him from contacts and when I was thinking of re-adding him it asks me to send a request (i didn't) so I guess he removed me after he realised? I had also removed him from my fb but not blocked,

maybe I was too fast too judge him? now I feel bad in case he was decent...

p.s he is a very flirty person generally and when we chatted on skype before hooking up (Btw I already knew him in person) he was pretty flirtatious and often said pervy things, however I noticed he seemed insecure too because he kept asking if I liked tall guys, and if I found him attractive, he even told me he liked me and was interested in me but didn't know if I liked him like that, however this could have been a ploy to just get sex of course...

I slept with this guy over a week ago and didn't hear from him, was I right to remove all forms of contact?

I haven't heard from this guy in over a week since I slept with him, however I haven't made any attempts to contact him either.

I met him in January, but I didn't hang out with him properly till last week, when we hooked up, the next day he was nice and all, hugged me all day walked me to the bus stop, and said to bring some dvds over for next time. know this wasn't heading for a relationship I dint even have time, but it would be nice to keep him as a friend even.

He was on skype sometimes so I guess he wasnt totally avoiding me, However I removed him from contacts and when I was thinking of re-adding him it asks me to send a request (i didnt) so I guess he removed me after he realised? I had also removed him from my fb but not blocked,

maybe I was too fast too judge him? now I feel bad incase he was decent.w

Ok so this guy at work and I had a "thing" when we first met, (we never went out though)A lot of stuff happened since then (it was ages ago) He hurt me, and for a long time I hatedhim, then I started to feel indifferent, Recently I had a very bad experience with this other guy, and he hurt me and used me, and it made it seem like what the previous guy had done to me was nothing.I decided to forgive him so I added him back on fb saying I wanted to bury the hatchet, after recent things that had happened to me, he asked me if there was anything I needed to talk about, I said I might tell him sometime and thanks.Today was the first time I saw him at work since re-adding him, and he was acting pretty different, he stated touching me (just on the back and stuff) and pretending to knock something on my head (in a jokey way) This is how he used to act before back when he flirted with me, he hasn't acted like this for ages because when he tried to do it when I was angry with him I'd avoid or shun him.Do you think he might think I still like-like him?

did i give him the wrong impression?

Ok I will try and keep this story brief as it's pretty complicated.

But basically this guy I was seeing, well I found out he had a gf!

After the first time I slept with him he told me he was sorta-seeing someone else (well we went official so that's fine) but he said it was a long term friend he never liked that way, but would hook up with to see if he liked her more.

We had kissed a few times but not hung out much, but that night he told me we slept together again.

I got an email from some girl because I had sent him an email, she claimed they had been together for a year , I was angry so I text him, he tried to say that she thought she was his gf but he kept telling her it wasn't like that, and when I asked him did you confirm you were official he said no because its complicated. I asked him to email that girl confessing, he made it look like he had but he had craftily changed her email adress slightly so it didn't send to her, i didn't notice this till later.

I then found out through a friend he was seen holding hands with some other girl, when i asked him he got all defencive.

Anyway I emailed the girl/gf and we were chatting about it she seemed nice until he got a chance to talk to her. I mean he was still hoping that me and him could hung out I think but I blocked him on FB and hung up on him , he had also begged me to stop emailing her.

After she spoke with him she suddenly switched and accused me of lying! He had made up lies about me, and what happened including saying we only slept together once and he was drunk, and he said the second time i stayed over and tried it on with him but he said no, which is also a total lie! But this girl believed it, when i tried telling her the true story she told me to stop lying, and that she thought I was lying because I was hurt, I was hurt intitally but after I learnt he was still lying I was just pissed off lol.

Anyway this girl had offered him a civil partnership so that he could stay in the country!

I just don't understand how she can be so stupid!! And what if she keeps harassing me or if I see her out and she tries to attack me! Im a victim in all this and hes getting away with it, please help! Why does she beleive his lies

At work today a guy co worker noticed a girl had a condom in her locker. (I don't think theres much wrong with that guess it was a bit random though lol, I know this girl is seeing a guy in a casual way atm)

The guy just pointed it out in a funny way, then suddenly this other girl was like "I have a condom in my purse! " as if she was trying to show off or something.

I just wondered, do you think carrying a condom in your wallet is skanky/desperate? Imo it's not that smart as it isn't difficult to put a condom in your purse, ok at least be safe but Ia think it makes her look trampy and constantly looking for sex.

(this same girl cheated on her fiance a few times, and is always talking about sex, and saying inappropiate things at work, she even flirted with these male customers and said that of she gave them her number they could forfill her needs. :/

So theres a girl you hooked up with a couple of times, you havent been able to hang recently as youre busy due to your studies. But you get on well with her and seem to have a lot in common and she really likes you.

Would you feel jealous to find out she found your friend really really hot ? (not that she says it infront of you but you heard through her friend)

So theres a girl you hooked up with a couple of times, you havent been able to hang recently as youre busy due to your studies. But you get on well with her and seem to have a lot in common and she really likes you.

Would you feel jealous to find out she found your friend really really hot ? (not that she says it infront of you but you heard through her friend)

If there was a girl you had met at a pub, you were physically attracted to her, but also have a lot in common.

Only met on three occasions, kissed the first time you met, slept together the second time, and kissed again the third time. She seems to want to hang out but you have suddenly become very busy with Uni work making it very difficult, might not even be able to come out for a month/socialise (properly) because you are so behind.

You find out that the girl had gone to a club (you had been invited but couldn't go) , you also find out she made out with another guy while at the club... would this bother you or make you feel jealous?

there is a guy I work with I dislikew, I'm even being transferred because of this.Anyway- when we first met we hooked up pretty fast, things didn't work out as friends and I kind of ended the friendship but trying to be nice about it (he really hurt me and was being a d*ck)- however he acted like he couldn't care less

.He has been all over the new girl and rubbing it in every ones face that they re having a "thing" even though she was still engaged to someone else. (before he was still trying to flirt with me and touch me etc at work)

Time has gone on, and I am always civil to him, he sometimes tried chatting to me I'd be polite but generally avoid him unless it was work related.I had told a couple of people at work I hated him, but I didn't want anyone to say anything as it would make things awkward before I left.A few weeks ago, he was asking me about my art course and stuff. I was complaining to my supervisor that I had to stay till 8.30 when I was tired and had college and work tomorrow, then this guy said "be right back" and he went to the supervisor and organised it so he would stay till 8.30 instead of me, I said thanks to him was he sure he said yer.Then later he suddenly said "actually I need to talk to you--" I said why? then he said " I don't want you to pretend you like me. I'm not deaf, and I'm not blind. So seriously if you have something to tell me or talk to me about please do" I said nothing and some other guy interupted to ask something, after hed gone, he asked me again "so.. you've got nothing to tell me?"I just didn't say anything.... it was just awkward, we were just talking civilly for the rest of the evening.

Since he has been acting really on/off sometimes it seems like he is ignoring me other times he tries to be friendly again and help me out, or make jokes with me, why .... why would he do this if he knows/thinks I probably hate him?

p.s he also has told everyone at work including the new girl he is sleeping with, all about what happened between us, and personal things about me, and trying to make it seem like im jealous :/

There was a guy at my work I had a "thing" with ages ago, it didn't work out, we didn't stay friends, I kind of felt he was too disrespectful, flirty with all women, flaky and a bit of a put downer/liar.

Anyway we didn't stay friends or anything.

So though he tried being friendly and chatting to me, he kept trying to flirt with me still, and acting pretty weird tbh. Id just be polite nothing more.

Anyway this girl started at work and she basically hooked up with him (even though she was with her fiance of 6 years she cheated on him) but left him now.

They were so in your face about their relationship, basically the guy tried to make it out to her that I was jealous of her when I couldnt care less! I didnt think much of her because of what she had done to her fiancee.

She had an argument with me one day because the guy had told her what I had said to someone about her (I knew he could hear and would probably sh*t stir, but I didnt care) I just said she was being superficial for dieting so much it makes her ill so she cant do her job properly and everyone else has to work harder. She called me a "pathetic cow! " and then started bringing up the guy! which had nothing to do with what I had said about her.... she then started telling me how she knew what me and him had been through because he told her. WHY THE HELL IS HE TELLING HER STUFF.

Anyway since this apprently they broke up, and she still acts weird towards me at work, she always startes at me.... and doesnt talk or ignores me if she can, I dont care but I mean i think its pretty pathetic im only being polite and asking about work related stuff.

She even tries to be a bit bitchy sometimes like gives me dirty looks, and when I was saying to this other worker today that the thing id been cleaning looked clean she said to this other girl "looks clean but isnt clean" what a *****, !

Why does she still care and act like a b*tch?? and STARE?

Guys how do you feel when you hurt a girl and she wont talk to you anymore? We had been close/intimate at one point.

She is just civil when she has to see you.

Though you've tried being friendly and starting conversation with her, she generally avoids me unless its work related,

I sensed she didn't like me but I was not sure, sometimes I felt like she was nice to me (we work together)

When I asked her if she had anything to tell me she said noting/avoided the topic..

I found out she is getting a transfer because she hates me that much!!! how would this make you feel?

there is a guy I work with I hate, I'm even being transferred because of this. (i dont think he knows this)

Anyway- when we first met we hooked up pretty fast, things didn't work out as friends and I kind of ended the friendship but trying to be nice about it (he really hurt me and was being a d*ck)- however he acted like he couldn't care less.

He has been all over the new girl and rubbing it in every ones face that they re having a "thing" even though she is still engaged to someone else.

He had been following me around before, trying to flirt/touch me, making excuses to come and chat to me , but I'd generally avoid him unless it relates to work.

I am always civil to him, he sometimes tried chatting to me I'd be polite.

I had told a couple of people at work I hated him, but I didn't want anyone to say anything as it would make things awkward before I left.

Today, he was asking me about my art course and stuff. I was complaining to my supervisor that I had to stay till 8.30 when I was tired and had college and work tomorrow, then this guy said "be right back" and he went to the supervisor and organised it so he would stay till 8.30 instead of me, I said thanks to him was he sure he said yer.

Then later he suddenly said "actually I need to talk to you--" I said why? then he said " I don't want you to pretend you like me. I'm not deaf, and I'm not blind. So seriously if you have something to tell me or talk to me about please do"

I just didn't say anything.... it was just awkward, we were just talking civilly for the rest of the evening. I'm surprised he even notices/cares as he seems preoccupied with this new girl.

This guy at work whom I fooled around with sometime back, he didnt want a relatinship, and I was a virgin so he felt uncomfortable about going a he way, though he offered we didint just did othr stuff. well we had fallen out as friends I cut of the friendship because he was flaky and other things, but he acted like he didn't care, we were being civil at work.

The other day at work I was pushing the baskets along the floor (so I was bent over as I pushed them) After I'd pushed them he just was smiling and said "Amazing person" I was a little confused so I said "huh?" but he didn't say anything else.I have seen him staring at me quite intensely,he doesnt look away when I notice him.

Sometims he flirty with me (he is a flirty person in general) and will find excuses to touch me, where as other times he wont pay much attention to me at all, especially less since this new girl started he flirts/ hangs around her and talks to her alot, barely talks to me at all if she is there, yesterday after work I was ready to go so was he, but two other staff memebers hadnt finished, I left but he made a point to wait for the new girl (shes actually engaged though and im pretty sure he knows that, idk if he is just desperate)

There was a few other weird things he has done/said also

.-walked past me once and made some weird breathing noise/whispered something

.-blocked my way so I had to squeeze past/delibrately pushed into me-pretended to throw things at me

-very lightly punched me on the bare area of my back and my cheek

-when I was leaving once another staff member mentioned he hadn noticed me during the shift, and this guy said to him "Are you blind?"

-said he only wanted to see what wasinmy bag during bag check and didnt care about checking the bags- asked me how my holiday was i hadnt told him id been on

- when he walked past me and put his hands up and said my name,i smiled and walked past, then he pulled a sad face and said "awww no high five"

- Showed me this thing I'd been looking for 5 mins ago, and when I told him I no longer needed it he said "awww I feel so useless"

-Always tries to argue about anything/contradict any points I make

-Had this powder on his finger and touched my nose with it-Interupting my conversations with others/trying to join in

-Said that he should be allowed to refuse to serve certain people when he was serving me, and said "people like you

-Looked over when I was chatting to this guy from next door, and watched him as he left

- Today I ignored him unless I had to talk to him about work, he approached me when he could get away from the till, and when I was leaving I got served by the other girl at the till, I noticed him looking over while serving a customer and he made sure he said bye to me.

"Why is he acting this way? I just wish he'd be clear with me.

This guy at work whom I fooled around with sometime back, he didnt want a relatinship, and I was a virgin so he felt uncomfortable about going a he way, though he offered we didint just did othr stuff. well we had fallen out as friends I cut of the friendship because he was flaky and other things, but he acted like he didn't care, we were being civil at work.

The other day at work I was pushing the baskets along the floor (so I was bent over as I pushed them) After I'd pushed them he just was smiling and said "Amazing person" I was a little confused so I said "huh?" but he didn't say anything else.I have seen him staring at me quite intensely,he doesnt look away when I notice him.

Sometims he flirty with me (he is a flirty person in general) and will find excuses to touch me, where as other times he wont pay much attention to me at all, especially less since this new girl started he flirts/ hangs around her and talks to her alot, barely talks to me at all if she is there, yesterday after work I was ready to go so was he, but two other staff memebers hadnt finished, I left but he made a point to wait for the new girl (shes actually engaged though and im pretty sure he knows that, idk if he is just desperate)

There was a few other weird things he has done/said also

.-walked past me once and made some weird breathing noise/whispered something

.-blocked my way so I had to squeeze past/delibrately pushed into me-pretended to throw things at me

-very lightly punched me on the bare area of my back and my cheek

-when I was leaving once another staff member mentioned he hadn noticed me during the shift, and this guy said to him "Are you blind?"

-said he only wanted to see what wasinmy bag during bag check and didnt care about checking the bags- asked me how my holiday was i hadnt told him id been on

- when he walked past me and put his hands up and said my name,i smiled and walked past, then he pulled a sad face and said "awww no high five"

- Showed me this thing I'd been looking for 5 mins ago, and when I told him I no longer needed it he said "awww I feel so useless"

-Always tries to argue about anything/contradict any points I make

-Had this powder on his finger and touched my nose with it-Interupting my conversations with others/trying to join in

-Said that he should be allowed to refuse to serve certain people when he was serving me, and said "people like you

-Looked over when I was chatting to this guy from next door, and watched him as he left

- Today I ignored him unless I had to talk to him about work, he approached me when he could get away from the till, and when I was leaving I got served by the other girl at the till, I noticed him looking over while serving a customer and he made sure he said bye to me.

"Why is he acting this way? I just wish he'd be clear with me.

This guy at work whom I fooled around with sometime back, well we had fallen out as friends but were being civil at work, anyway his behaviour has been somewhat confusing to me.Today at work I was pushing the baskets along the floor (so I was bent over as I pushed them) and I pulled a silly face as I went past his till. After I'd pushed them he just was smiling and said "Amazing person" I was a little confused so I said "huh?" but he didn't say anything else.I have seen him staring at me quite intensely,he doesn't look away when I notice him.Sometimes he vey flirt with me (he is a flirty person in general) and will find excuses to touch me, where as other times he wont pay much attention to me at all.He seemed to lingeringing near me when I was on the phone the other day.There was a few other weird things he has done/said also.-walked past me once and made some weird breathing noise/whispered something.-blocked my way so I had to squeeze padeliberatelyely pushed into me-pretended to throw things at me-very lightly punched me on the bare area of my back and my cheek-when I was leaving once another staff member mentioned he hadnt noticed me during the shift, and this guy said to him "Are you blind?"-said he only wanted to see what wasinmy bag during bag check and didnt care about checking the bags- asked me how my holiday was i hadnt told him id been on

This guy at work whom I fooled around with sometime back, well we had fallen out as friends but were being civil at work, anyway his behaviour has been somewhat confusing to me.Today at work I was pushing the baskets along the floor (so I was bent over as I pushed them) and I pulled a silly face as I went past his till. After I'd pushed them he just was smiling and said "Amazing person" I was a little confused so I said "huh?" but he didn't say anything else.

I have seen him staring at me quite intensely,he doesnt look away when I notice him.

Sometims he vey fli ith me (he is a flirty person in general) and will find excuses to touch me, where as other times he wont pay much attention to me at all and flirts with this new girl (shes actually engaged)

He seemed to be ligering near me when I was on the phone the other day.

There was a few other weird things he has done/said also.

-walked past me once and made some weird breathing noise/whispered something.

-blocked my way so I had to squeeze past/delibrately pushed into me

-pretended to throw things at me

-very lightly punched me on the bare area of my back and my cheek

-when I was leaving once another staff member mentioned he hadn noticed me during the shift, and this guy said to him "Are you blind?"

-said he only wanted to see what wasinmy bag during bag check and didnt care about checking the bags

- asked me how my holiday was i hadnt told him id been on

- when he walked past me and put his hands up and said my name,i smiled and walked past, then he pulled a sad face and said "awww no high five"

-Came over to my till to show me stupid things like a penny, a peice of rubbish ,:/

- Showed me this thing I'd been looking for 5 mins ago, and when I told him I no longer needed it he said "awww I feel so useless"

-Showed up at work a few times when he wasnt working, once came over to tell me he liked my work badge

-Said that he should be allowed to refuse to serve certain people when he was serving me, and said "people like you"

If a guy whom only wanted a fling with you/casual thing, is telling you his problems and that he understands how you feel, and suggests you see a doctor because he thinks you're depressed, and he says he has seen a doctor recently due to his depression,. do you think that's weird that he would talk about these kind of things to a girl he wasn't interested in becoming serious with?

I told him I didn't think we should hang out, and we ddint talk for a while, till we had shifts at work again, and when we did he acted all over friendly/helpful towards me and would try and talk to me and ask me how I am, I don't get why he should care if hes into casual sex... I mean we havent hung out as friends in months we see each other at work and he often asks me how I am, compliments tries to touch me on my back/shoulder/ back of my neck. Or randomly starts stupid arguments/tries to contradict me.

Why is he even bothering now?

Ok so I work with this girl I had a bit of a fling with when we first met, and we kinda fell out as friends but we are civil at work, shes always polite. I try to be more friendly/banter with her more than she does with me/I intitate nearly all conversations.

I was talking to her about a friend at college, and how he had told some girl she was stupid, (because I found the story funny). Then she asked me "Well what had he said or done to her before to make him say something like that"

I was a bit confused about her question so I just said "Nothing he was just telling her the comment se made was stupid" and I was laughing a bit when telling her this, then she just got up and said "mhmm" and started walking away. (we had just finished taking stuff out of our lockers)

One other time she was stocking the area of the shop with another which I was set to do, so I said to her "you guys are too kind" and then she said "Well the supervisor asked me to do this, I'm not doing it out of the kindness of my heart" so I just said "well it's still nice of you"

Why did she react like that?