Being harassed by a girl who's bf I slept with (He didn't tell me he had a gf!!)?

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Ok I will try and keep this story brief as it's pretty complicated.
But basically this guy I was seeing, well I found out he had a gf!
After the first time I slept with him he told me he was sorta-seeing someone else (well we went official so that's fine) but he said it was a long term friend he never liked that way, but would hook up with to see if he liked her more.
We had kissed a few times but not hung out much, but that night he told me we slept together again.
I got an email from some girl because I had sent him an email, she claimed they had been together for a year , I was angry so I text him, he tried to say that she thought she was his gf but he kept telling her it wasn't like that, and when I asked him did you confirm you were official he said no because its complicated. I asked him to email that girl confessing, he made it look like he had but he had craftily changed her email adress slightly so it didn't send to her, i didn't notice this till later.
I then found out through a friend he was seen holding hands with some other girl, when i asked him he got all defencive.
Anyway I emailed the girl/gf and we were chatting about it she seemed nice until he got a chance to talk to her. I mean he was still hoping that me and him could hung out I think but I blocked him on FB and hung up on him , he had also begged me to stop emailing her.
After she spoke with him she suddenly switched and accused me of lying! He had made up lies about me, and what happened including saying we only slept together once and he was drunk, and he said the second time i stayed over and tried it on with him but he said no, which is also a total lie! But this girl believed it, when i tried telling her the true story she told me to stop lying, and that she thought I was lying because I was hurt, I was hurt intitally but after I learnt he was still lying I was just pissed off lol.
Anyway this girl had offered him a civil partnership so that he could stay in the country!
I just don't understand how she can be so stupid!! And what if she keeps harassing me or if I see her out and she tries to attack me! Im a victim in all this and hes getting away with it, please help! Why does she beleive his lies

? · Accepted Answer

She belives his lies because she is stupid. Don't talk to her or him any more and eventually she will see him for who he really is.

Lost in love · Answer

Well, you have definitely been wronged here. He's a liar and a coward. But their relationship issues are not your problem. Now that you know he is a jerk and that he is unworthy to even be near you, you need to move on and prove that he is trash. Stop trying to convince the girlfriend that you are innocent. Email can only accomplish so much and if he's lying to her and she cares about him then she'll believe him over a stranger, no matter what.

My honest opinion is that you need to send her a short and sweet email saying that everything you have told her has been the truth and you apologize if that hurts her feelings. But you recognize that their problems are not yours and that if she will respect your right to remove yourself from the equation, then you will no longer bother her. Clarify that you just want to be rid of the issues that he has created and no longer wish to participate in arguments with her.

If you keep the communications short and try to communicate that you are legitimately trying to move on from all this drama, she'll have no choice to respect it. If she lashes out at you after the email (which I doubt, but some people are crazy), then block her email and call it a day. Cut ties with him and her and just be more careful when choosing your sexual partners in the future. This wasn't your fault, but consider it a lesson learned and know that you are the wiser for it while he is just trash.

If you see them in public, make eye contact (noncombative by not guilty either) and respond according to how she responds. If she drops her smile, keep moving. If she looks angry, remove yourself from the hostility and go somewhere else. She can't stay angry forever and eventually he'll do this again and she'll be the one to suffer for it. That is NOT your problem either.

Keep your head up. Good luck.

pepsichick12432 · Answer

Well there goes another stupid girl who will believe in anything the guy says when its obvious they are lying. She chose to believe him cuz shes in denial. Anyways, block her email address and if she keeps harassing you call the police.

Anonymous · Answer

What a bummer.  

There are just so many of these player men out there.  It is just such a shame.  

It is clearly all his fault and noone elses.  Just move on with your life and try not to get involved with a player man again.

xK · Answer

Just tell her, "Look, I've given you my side of the story.  You can believe me or not, I don't care.  But please stop emailing me.  I'm sorry that I slept with your boyfriend, but I didn't know you were dating.  I can't undo it."

You CAN block email addresses, you know.  Then she can't harass you.

Anonymous · Answer

You're being a gossip, leave em alone. And in what way is she harrassing you btw? By calling you a liar?

Anonymous · Answer

just tell her that you have told her what happened. && if she keeps harrassing you dont you think you should block her or report it to whatever site she is sending you emails to?

lady J modozie · Answer

i think she believe his lies so he would u no like her back and get back to being bf and gf u get it?

Lala. · Answer

Ignore her

Anonymous · Answer

tell the police that shes harrassing u

Being harassed by a girl who's bf I slept with (He didn't tell me he had a gf!!)?

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