I am in love with a crazy genius, who is also straight?

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I am a 16 year old lesbian, and I had always loved shows like Dr Who, Sherlock and The Big Bang Theory.  Even though I'm interested in girls, I was really attracted to the minds of the leading men on those shows.  When suddenly, wham!  A girl (let's call her Alice) walked into my life.  She became my best friend, but how I still don't know.  She is the personification of Sherlock Holmes, the doctor and Sheldon Cooper, only in the body of a classically beautiful teenaged girl.  She is honestly the smartest, funniest and most amazing person I have ever met in my life, and I can't help but love her.  However, she also identifies as straight.  She has never actually told me whether or not she is, but has never corrected me when I say she is.  She hates physical contact with most people, but will let me put my head in her lap when we're sitting on the floor because she trusts me.  Do you think there is a chance that she likes me back?  Should I tell her how I feel?

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There is always a chance.

Should you go for it?
I'm not sure I can satisfy a answer for you, but I can tell you of my own experience.
When I was 14 I got my first girlfriend, before that she had been my best friend since we were children and we still are, even though she lives quite far away.
Anyway; when I started being attracted to her I was confused like you are, mainly because I was unsure how she felt about me and I didn't want to loose my friendship with her.
I decided to approach the sexuality topic with her, which I actually think many girls do, and when it turned out she liked both genders like myself I suggested experimenting together.

At first she was surprised and wanted some time to think, so it was obvious she hadn't considered being with me at that point.
Well, it turned out well anough and we were a active couple for a years tíme.

My suggestion to you would be a similar approach.
Does you friend know that you are a lesbian?
Try just asking her hwo she feels about the opposite gender;
If she replies that she is straight only right away then excuse it with something like "M'kay, just wondering since you know that I'm les etc."
If she replies that she hadn't considered it or that she likes girls too, then you can take it from there, but be careful.

Your friend sounds like a private person, and that can be hard to tackle.
Good luck.

I am in love with a crazy genius, who is also straight?

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