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Do you think I am asexual?

I can recognize that someone is attractive, but I've never had the urge to kiss or date anyone. I occasionally wonder what sex would be like, but I have no desire to ever act on my curiosity because I am generally uncomfortable with the idea of sex, and the vulnerability involved. I can feel sexual desire, but I don't want another person involved with my body. What is this? Is there even a name?

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  • ?
    Lv 7
    8 years ago
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    By definition, if you are not sexually attracted to men or women, then you are asexual.

    Just to be certain, you can confirm your sexuality using this FAQ page as a "diagnostic test" of sorts: http://www.asexuality.org/home/general.html

    If you also don't have romantic feelings for anyone else, as well as having no sexual feelings, then you are aromantic asexual. Asexuals differentiate between sexual and romantic attraction by separating the two into "sexual orientation" and "romantic orientation", respectively.

    More info on aromantic people: http://asexuality.org/wiki/index.php?title=Aromant...

    More info on romantic/sexual orientation: https://intimacycartography.wordpress.com/2011/01/...

    OP: "I can feel sexual desire, but I don't want another person involved with my body."

    So, you have a sex drive. Some asexuals have high sex drives; such people are referred to as "autosexual" in the asexual community because they are just fine getting off on themselves. For the record, it's important to differentiate between libido and sexual orientation: one is your physiological desire for sex, and the other is who you want to sleep with.

    If, however, you find that you aren't quite asexual, then you should consider reading up on the term "gray-a", just to see if this identity is a better fit: http://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index.php?title=Gra...

  • ?
    Lv 5
    8 years ago

    Quite possibly. FYI, many asexuals enjoy kissing some hate the idea. The main concept about asexuals is that they have no interest in sex.

  • John
    Lv 4
    8 years ago

    This may be a fear/discomfort with being vulnerable. This is something you may wish to consult a counselor/psychologist about to help resolve. It can be difficult to build a relationship and trust strong enough to overcome strong feelings vulnerability in todays society. That doesn't make it impossible.

  • 8 years ago

    no maybe you just haven't found that "someone" doesnt mean your asexual

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