Should I ditch this friend?

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We were good friends through middle school and high school. He moved to FL with  his wife, baby and his parents to Florida. His father had a heart attack in  00. His mother, wife and child (4 yrs old t the time) moved back to the city that they lived in. 
 He called me up and we made  arrangement to meet at his place. It was nice to see him again. But he seemed different. He  divorced his wife (She was cheating 
on him) He s lived with four or five ladies since 2001. Something happens and they end up breaking up. He ended up getting a lAdy knocked up. He has custody of the boy. He has not had  job in yrs, claims he has back problem. Addicted to pain pills. Was trying to get on disabilty for his back. Keeps getting denied every time. He currently still lived at home (he is 47) With wife # 4 (She is on social security) for some reson. He s been married to wife #4. They met  in Oct. of 2015 Married in Feb . of 2016. I ve met her a few times. Don t care or want to know her. She is 14 younger then he is. So at that age we do not have things in comnon.

Ana · Answer

Why don’t you try helping him get his life back on track? Clearly his wife cheating on him and leaving him caused him some trauma/PTSD. Help him realize his self worth and get back on his feet. Also support his current marriage, even if it’s an age difference it’s his wife and having a wife is morally a good thing

d j · Answer

If you can't help his situation and fear of catching bad vibes yourself then by all means you should ditch this friend.

He always manages to find/ditch/find another  partner regardless of his age and his addiction. So he's may not be as innocent that you want him to be.

Anonymous · Answer

Isn't there some middle ground here where you don't want to be as close with this guy as you used to be but you cdon't need to cut him out of your life 100%? If he's is a bad position he may ask for help or even try to take advantage. But aren't you alert enough and smart enough to decline to help, decline to be taken advantage of? Don't burn all your bridges. Take the guy out for burgers & beers a couple times a year for old times' sake.

seedy history · Answer

Growing apart with time and circumstance isn't the same thing as "ditching" a friend from your childhood.

If you don't want to hang with him, don't. One of the benefits of being an adult.

Should I ditch this friend?

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