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How to forgive myself for these mistakes ?

When I was younger, I was low in confidence with women. I didn't take rejection well and tried too hard. I've never harassed a girl, but have tried too hard with texting if it wasn't working out. If they don't reply, now I give them one more chance and if they don't reply I assume its not working out and move on. In the past, I would try several times and look so needy and girls would think I'm stalking when it wasn't my intention. I just was overthinking, got too attached and tried way too hard

In past 3 years, I've learned the difference between persistence and neediness. As stated, I don't make these mistakes anymore and any girl over last few years I've dated can say I ever looked desperate or like a stalker.

I feel anxious word would get around what I used to be like and then rumours get made up of me, and one or two In particular I feel that I tried too hard and looked so desperate. I feel guilty and what if they thought I was stalking them. 

How do I forgive myself? I've definitely learned from my mistakes, and my friend made good point that if I was that bad the cops would have been called or they'd have threatened me, which they never did. So am I too hard on myself?

Update:

Typo* I meant no girl I've dated in last few years can say I looked desperate because I haven't

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  • Anonymous
    2 months ago

    If you truly never harassed a girl, you should have nothing to worry about. Most guys in my experience have gone through a phase of being a persistent texter and those girls have probably just forgotten about it. If you did anything really weird, the girls would have definitely have told people at the time so it is very unlikely that any of them will say anything now.

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