How to forgive yourself and others and why?

A divided house can never stand, so forgive the one and you have forgiven all. Only one stone was cast out from the foundation and without it the building will come down. It now is a stumbling stone . 

By deciding to obey all of Jesus' sayings As you practice that it gets eaaier

At first, it seems like forgiveness requires effort, but the more you practice, it turns out to be a way of 'being'.  Forgiveness isn't so much a result of anything you "do" or "have", but a consequence of what you 'are' and have 'become'; in which "doing and having" follow.  'Forgive', is a combination of the words 'give' and 'before', and means to give people a pass beforehand.

The Buddha and Christ taught to have 'Compassion' and 'Forgiveness', without exception, towards one's fellow man and self, for being "less than perfect".  The capacity to forgive comes from the realization that people don't know any better, and cannot be other than they are at the moment; if they could, 'they would'.  With Divine assistance, ultimately, we come to see that there isn't really anything to forgive.  

When we're all in the same "pool of sludge", it hard to pass judgement on who is more soiled than others.

i made a video about forgiving, and also another video on how to love someone you want to hate, both are linked below:

https://youtu.be/BssxXVrBzzc

https://youtu.be/ds_y9NVULGM

I never understood what it meant to forgive your own self.  What would happen if you didn't?  You wouldn't talk to yourself anymore?  I don't get it.

Well Jake, I am not good at forgiving myself, that just takes time. Forgiving others? I forgive them if they are man enough (or woman enough) to simply say sorry. If no apology is forthcoming I just suck it up and pretend I am ok, and I am ok, because I know one day I will get my revenge, and it comes eventually, because those that wrong others make a habit of it, they forget the one amongst the many. I bide my time and wait, maybe 10, 20, 30 years, maybe the they mess themselves up, it does happen. But if not, this is a small community, one day they may need help and then it is time to drive past the car in the ditch, time to not lend that tool, time to not help with that flood. There should be consequences for actions in this life, not the next.

What is the error? What did you do to yourself and others?

Find the reason????