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What's the fine line between flirting and harassment?

Mild coaxing is alright, but it can't be taken too far. How far is far?

Wearing revealing clothes, lipstick, showing cleavage is ok, but staring is not.

Tempting is ok, but getting tempted is not.

Flirting is ok, but force is not.Who defines what is acceptable and not?

Make-up, and revealing clothes are fine, but men mustn't react, or express their reactions.

You want the attention, but won't stand uninvited attention?

Isn't there a conflict somewhere?Do you sense a shade of hypocrisy here?

Compliments are welcome, but you object to some comments passed.... The same fine line...

You want to advertise your assets, but object to my thinking/saying 'swell boobs' or 'nice legs'...

Might there be a shade of hypocrisy here?

Who defines what is acceptable and not? Has this topic been discussed?

Feminists would say, "It's not society's right to dictate what I wear or how I sit or speak."

"It's my right what I wear or speak."

By the same argument, "Is it not my right what or speak?". I think she's got great breasts/thighs and choose to say it. (considering what's allowed where, etc.)

Has this topic been discussed? Has there never been a discussion about this before?

 (Please share with me any info. or links you find.)

For example, commenting aloud in a social place is offensive, but who is to stop me from thinking what I do, and expressing my views in a forum like this. (How many of you are going to reply using abusive language, instead of typing an intelligent answer?)

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  • 2 weeks ago
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    "What's the fine line between flirting and harassment?"

    We clearly need a society wide discussion on this that is between men and women, and NOT feminist groups or other assorted dogmatic agendas.

    When we get the feminist take on this, it is that women should have all the exclusive power to dictate that whenever they feel uncomfortable, then the man must change the course of his actions or otherwise needs to be subjected to legal penalties by the state.  It's the idea that women's feelings and sensibilities ONLY must be protected, and protected by law.

    But that is hardly equality.  And it makes women appear as if they are either children, or complete dependents on society to take care of them so that their feelings will not be hurt by some equal man interacting with them.

    Now imagine if the feminist principle was extended to men too rather than being the gynocentric female only prerogative that feminists currently enjoy to some extent.  Then as soon as a man felt uncomfortable by what a woman was wearing, she would need to immediately put on some clothing and cover up, otherwise be subjected to legal penalties.  How is that for feminist equality??

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  • 1 week ago

    Anything that a woman does that makes a man feel uncomfortable is harassment. Report her immediately to HR.

  • Anonymous
    1 week ago

    If a woman walks into the office with a short skirt or a loose blouse on, and another woman or a man is offended, or feels uncomfortable by her appearance, then that is harassment.

    This is where we are heading, because feminist offence culture is taking root in society.  We are all going to pay the price for being such pansies.

  • Anonymous
    2 weeks ago

    Harassment is a behavior that is unwelcome.   Something as simple as leaning over someone at a computer can constitute harassment.   Note, “unwelcome” has nothing to do with the intent of the alleged harasser, it’s all about how an action is perceived. So, the fine line is sheerest a behavior become unwelcome.  

    Also note, two different guys can say or do the exact same thing in the exact same manner, but if a woman welcomes it from one person, it’s not harassment.  I’d she doesn’t welcome it from the second guy, it is harassment.  

  • 2 weeks ago

    Just don't flirt.  Apart from the sexual harassment angle, it makes it really hard to tell when people are serious about wanting you.

  • Bill
    Lv 7
    2 weeks ago

    There isn't objectively a line. The issue with sexual harassment is that it's subjective and requires the man to know when he has gone over the line for the individual woman. Men are well known for being bad at reading women and yet feminists, government and businesses expect men to know how to read women. lol

  • Anonymous
    2 weeks ago

    "Mild coaxing is alright, but it can't be taken too far. How far is far?"

    When the woman says no or shows she is uncomfortable you need to stop or it becomes too far. 

    "Wearing revealing clothes, lipstick, showing cleavage is ok, but staring is not."

    Would you want to be stared at? It makes people uncomfortable. Feel free to look but don't make it obvious. If she notices you looking don't keep looking. 

    "Tempting is ok, but getting tempted is not."

    Getting tempted is fine. What you do after that is what may not be ok. Someone being tempting to you does not mean you can force them to do anything. 

    "Flirting is ok, but force is not. Who defines what is acceptable and not?"

    Force is never ok

    "You want the attention, but won't stand uninvited attention?"

    Uh, yeah. Wanting attention does not mean someone is ok with uninvited attention. 

    "You want to advertise your assets, but object to my thinking/saying 'swell boobs' or 'nice legs'..."

    Think whatever you want but keep your mouth shut. 

  • ?
    Lv 7
    2 weeks ago

    When it's unwanted, it's harassment. It has to be reported first.

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