strange behaviour after 7 years?

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In relationship for almost 7 years. He tells me all the time how much he loves me, shows me he loves me by walking the walk and not just talking the talk. I am divorced, he has never been married. I love him to bits, we laugh alot together and get on really well. He has NEVER mentioned marriage, never speaks about the future in this way. I brought it up few times in conversation about our future and how he sees it. His answer is always, my future is with you. But he never mentions conmittment. I am old fashioned in that i would not chase this and never ask out straight. However sometimes i find this behaviour strange, He is romantic and will buy flowers and say really nice things, this is one of the reasons why you would think he is not a guy who just does nt get it. Money is tight, but i am not talking big white wedding or even big wedding. I am just talking committment and feeling secure. What do you think?

hello_its_only_me · Accepted Answer

Whats strange?   He is acting normal,  just because he doesnt feel the need to go through some religous ceremony for a piece of paper doesnt make him any different.
Be thankful for the great 7 years you have had.........     and look forward to the next 7.   But dont ruin it by asking for something that isnt really relevant.   Its just a piece of paper.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think his behavior is strange at all.  I'm a female, and have been with my boyfriend for a total of 10 yrs; we dated for 2, broke up for 2, and have been together for 8 now.  While I LOVE my boyfriend and would never think of leaving him, I am not really interested in marriage.  He loves me as well, and he's cool with it.  We will get married someday, but after 10 yrs, I'm still in no rush.  I see it as the actions portrayed in everyday life is WAY more important than a piece of paper.  We know we're committed to each other and that's all that matters.

So, coming from my point of view, your boyfriend is not weird.  He just has a different view on marriage than you do.  Both views are fine, but is different for different people.  I'd talk to him about your commitment issues, and maybe he'll open up about his.  Just because he's not particularly ready to marry does not mean he isn't committed to you.

Good luck, and enjoy your time together.  Try not to push the thought of marriage upon him; it could backfire on you.

Thomas T · Answer

Some guys are afraid of marriage, think it might change things or maybe make him feel trapped, there are lots of reasons. If u do have the great relationship u say, and u talk openly and honestly to each other, share ur feelings with him on this and find out why he has cold feet. If he truly loves u and is able to see how important this is to u, i'm sure he would marry u. Good luck!

Alicia C · Answer

Come right out and ask him, communication is the key to all good relationships. That way you are all on the same page.

? · Answer

Just tell him how you feel about it, and ask how he feels about it.  Then go from there.

Just start the conversations out smooth, it will go fine then you can find out what is going on with him.

mercedes · Answer

YOU HAVE TO TELL HIM THAT GETTING MARRIED IS YOUR DREAM... IF HE LOVES YOU HE WILL DO

strange behaviour after 7 years?

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