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help, what can I do?.?
My wife hasn't spoken to me for a 1 month. When we did get time to chat ( 5 days after we had arranged it ), she now wants to separate.
She at present is just showing anger & wanting to fight.
Trying to explain that if we had talked during the month we won't be in this situation.
In oct we started to argue, both of us getting low, it effected her more then me. In Feb we decided to give the relationship a year. Though support & love from friends.
End of March, i started to feel the strain of work, losing 1/3 rd of wages, going in doing more time to make up the loss.
Start of April, asked wife to ease off, I become low & exhausted. Didn't excerise went to bed early and started to smoke.
I know things weren't right and started to email from work asking to talk, spend time together. But because of me feeling low, ( moody / grumpy where the words used ) none of this happened.
What can I do to get her to talk to me, for her to understand the strain, for this relationship fragile hurdle to be overcome.
Love her & the kids lots, just lost and need a new method. What are people thoughts or ideas on improving.
It are wedding anniversary next month, we've been together 12 years, worked out stuff. But the last 7 months haven't been
we did go to relate in Nov, it wasn't as good as it used to be.
Within the parish, there are a couple who help out. They contacted the wife a couple of days ago, who said that the timing wasn't right ( is that a glimmer of hope? )
During Nov, i was writting her letters. HAve done a couple this week. But she point blank refuses to read them
3 Answers
- spiceLv 58 years agoFavourite answer
This shows how desperate u r to retain the relation ship. However a one side attempt is mostly useless if the other person is excessively adamant. The only solution is counseling
- Anonymous8 years ago
Marriage is hard work. It has to be worked at to work. And even more so when it goes through the rough patches. As it will. As all marriages do. Working through them together and coming out the other end as a couple is what makes the marriage,the relationship stronger. There are no sides to be taken here as I understand both of them. You the breadwinner worrying about how to pay the bills, and working all hours to do this. And your wife who feels your absence, your moods and is left at home with only the dishes to wipe. But why are you writing her letters? You still live under the same roof? I'm not surprised she won't talk or read them. Is that the only way left for you to communicate with her? Maybe she sees your letters as only words on paper. So why not try the more romantic approach. All women love romance. Even, especially when married. Arrange a baby sitter on the quiet. Plan an entire evening with your wife. Book tickets to a show, a boat trip, dance, entertainment. And a romantic meal to end it. Dinner for two and a chance to talk face to face. Where you can look her in the eyes and really tell her how much you love her. And just how much you want your marriage to work. If she still loves you and also deep down feels the same she will respond.