wife WON'T talk to me, it's killing me inside?

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Help, what can I do?.?
My wife hasn't spoken to me for a 1 month. When we did get time to chat ( 5 days after we had arranged it ), she now wants to separate. 

She at present is just showing anger & wanting to fight.

Trying to explain that if we had talked during the month we won't be in this situation.

In oct we started to argue, both of us getting low, it effected her more then me. In Feb we decided to give the relationship a year. Though support & love from friends.

End of March, i started to feel the strain of work, losing 1/3 rd of wages, going in doing more time to make up the loss.

Start of April, asked wife to ease off, I become low & exhausted. Didn't excerise went to bed early and started to smoke.

I know things weren't right and started to email from work asking to talk, spend time together. But because of me feeling low, ( moody / grumpy where the words used ) none of this happened.

What can I do to get her to talk to me, for her to understand the strain, for this relationship fragile hurdle to be overcome.

Love her & the kids lots, just lost and need a new method. What are people thoughts or ideas on improving. 

It are wedding anniversary next month, we've been together 12 years, worked out stuff. But the last 7 months haven't been

we did go to relate in Nov, it wasn't as good as it used to be.

Within the parish, there are a couple who help out. They contacted the wife a couple of days ago, who said that the timing wasn't right ( is that a glimmer of hope? )

During Nov, i was writting her letters. HAve done a couple this week. But she point blank refuses to read them

? · Accepted Answer

It's over man.  Sorry it that sounds harsh, but anyone with experience looking at this from outside of your relationship, and who is prepared to give you a straight answer, can see that your marriage is over.  I speak as one who has been through this, and I can tell you that the sooner you accept it and start making plans to deal with it, the better for all concerned.
You can't force anyone to love you, and people can't really help their true feelings.  Talk to your wife and tell her that you agree things are not working and want a divorce.  Try and keep it as civilised as possible between the pair of you as you can and make plans straight away to divorce. Please don't spend years making each other miserable in some misguided, supposedly noble, attempt to "make it work".  You will only increase the misery for both of you.
Good luck!

Emma R · Answer

Show her that your not the person she thinks you are! If you really want her back then you have to pull yourself together and revamp yourself basically. Don't just write her letters go see her, turn up with a bunch of flowers and show her how much she means to you because obviously you want her back. Anyone that says your marriage is over is wrong, you can change how things go so stop typing on your computer and sort yourself out!

Sandra M · Answer

Breakdown of communication.  I would ask point blank if she still wants to be a part of this relationship if not, move on.

? · Answer

See a marriage counselor, both of you.

Anonymous · Answer

Don't let her "kill" you, she wants out, so let her out. time to move on. These things happen. You're not the only one.

Bales · Answer

Give her a gift

wife WON'T talk to me, it's killing me inside?

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