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Advice re annoying neighbour?
My neighbour has a 7 yr old son. I have a 6 yr old daughter. Everytime I come home from work he opens the door asking to come round. If I leave the house at all, as soon as I open the door he opens his wanting to come with me, or come round. This is EVERYTIME. She sits by the door and allows him to keep harassing me. I've had him round weekly as I feel pressurised to do so, but my daughters not really bothered. I just say no other times but it's so stressful, sometimes I try and sneak out but he still years! I've heard her saying yes they're back and pop there he is again! My d is rarely asked round there, she is happy for this to carry on as she knows in the end hep he gets to cone round sometimes and as she does nothing with him this is a free treat she can use to keep him quiet. She's even said to him you can go round Friday as my d doesn't need to get up for school Saturday, inviting him over herself then I feel I can't say no to him. Don't want to fall out with her but this is all very weird behaviour and odd it baffles me how someone thinks it's ok to continually badger the neighbours!
1 Answer
- ?Lv 67 years ago
You teach people how to treat you. By not speaking up, you've essentially taught your neighbour that it's okay for her to pawn her kid off on you whenever she wants. If you want things to change, you need be more forthcoming.
You should never feel obligated to invite the child inside. Instead, ask your daughter if she wants to play outside in the yard with her friend. If she doesn't want to, he can go home, and if she does want to play, she can play outside with him.
Another thing you can try is scheduling a time with the mother for the boy to come play. Once or twice a month is fine. Let the mother know family time is important to you and when her son drops by unannounced, it puts you in an awkward position having to tell him no all the time and it would be better if you could schedule something instead. Make sure you talk about scheduling a time for your daughter to go over there to play. When the boy comes around uninvited, remind him of your scheduled play date.